Everyone has the perfect gift to give the world – and if each us is freed up to give the gift that is uniquely ours to give, the world will be in total harmony
– Buckminster Fuller
The journey we are all on, individually, has interesting intersections. Places where we have almost identical experiences. Places where we are on the same page at the same time. Wherever we are traveling on the map, someone has been there before us, and someone is just behind us. We are driven by a hunger to express who we really are, and at the same time, we are like, “wait, wait, I’m not ready”. Our choices reflect our greatest dreams and our deepest fears and insecurities.
Do you know what you are? You are a manuscript of a divine letter. You are a mirror reflecting a noble face. This universe is not outside of you. Look inside yourself, everything that you want, you already have.
Do you remember when you went to a playground or maybe it was at school recess – the first time that you climbed up the ladder of the slide and looked way down to the bottom? It seemed so far below us and really scary. Maybe you went right back down that ladder too scared to go down the slide. Or maybe you went down the slide, but remained in total control by gripping the sides of the slide so that you just eased yourself down to the bottom very, very slowly. Or maybe you threw caution to the winds and went down the slide screaming at the top of your lungs, and ran as fast as you could to climb back up the ladder and this time to try it backwards.
We as human beings have this amazing capacity to be reborn at breakfast every day and say, “This is a new day. Who will I be?”
– Jack Kornfield
How many things in your life have been like that slide experience? How has this pattern showed up in your life? Do you blunt your own truth? Do you not fully commit to anything in life? Do you like to stay in the lines, and play safe with life by staying within your comfort zone? Do you avoid pushing boundaries at home, at work, when exercising, in every area of your life? Are you setting goals or New Years Resolutions that are not really growing you or breaking out or through anything that you did last year, or the year before that . . . , all the way back 5, 10, or 20 years ago? Is RISK a dirty four letter word to your brain?
Whenever you hear or read anything of a spiritual nature that moves you or touches your soul you are not learning something . . , you are remembering what you have always known. It is a gentle awakening.
When you move forward, is it from consulting your own inner guidance, or from following the advice of others? You awaken and become conscious of your purpose in life when you stop looking outside for the answers that can only be found inside of us. Sit in silence and listen to the soft voice of your heart. To the guidance of your soul. This divine guidance comes to us through the voice of intuition. When we start to live our life from this authentic place, our soul becomes visible.
The more you trust intuition, the more empowered you become, the stronger you become, and the happier you become.
– Gisele Bundchen
Do you move forward without design with “a leap of faith”, like racing down that slide in childhood. Or do you continue to walk down well worn and well known paths based on your need to control everything in your life? Like gripping the sides of that slide to control your slide to the bottom. Do you get vulnerable and put yourself out there, or do you draw back into your quiet safe corner where you can’t be seen or heard? We mistakenly think that when we keep safe, that we are avoiding being hurt. The truth is when we are not taking that leap of faith, we are suffering a far greater pain. We suffer in life, from not living our purpose. We suffer the regrets of not living a fully lived life. That leap of faith is the road to the happiness. The road to living a life well lived. Of stepping up into transforming not only ourselves, but the world we live in.
Vulnerability is not about fear and grief and disappointment – it is the birthplace of everything we’re hungry for.
– Brene Brown
Think of people who became “obsessed” with something – Jane Goodell, Mother Teresa. Gandhi, Martin Luther King, all come to my mind. All people that when you hear their name, you think of the “thing” or purpose that gave meaning to their life. Their message comes through loud and clear. You associate their name with the message. It isn’t only their life that was changed by their following their passion. Their life purpose actually changed the world. They have literally become a living archetype, a soul on fire.
In a world where everyone wears a mask, it’s a privilege to see a soul.
Watching a candle flame is watching the transformation of fire. It dies down and flames up over and over again. It is constantly changing – it changes directions, it changes height, it changes width – in any one second it is not the same as it was the previous second. It reacts to the slightest breeze in the room.
There is a force within which gives you life, seek that. In your body lies a priceless gem, seek that. O wandering soul if you want to find the greatest treasure, don’t look outside, look inside, and seek that.
When we awaken, there is a fire that starts burning within our soul. We awaken to our true nature, as everything that doesn’t belong gets burned away. We start to get glimpses of what our truth is. We see the masks of conditioned behaviors and patterns that need to be removed, as they don’t serve us. Like a mirror we see reflected back to us what is holding us back. We see that the walls that our patterns built to protect us, are in fact keeping us from living to our full potential. When we see life from our souls perspective, we see that there are no obstacles, only guidance.
Don’t let life’s challenges harden your heart, let them empower your mind, renew your spirit and strengthen your soul.
As children you believe that your parents are invincible, indestructible, and that they will never let you down. Then the unthinkable happens and they do.
Then when you are older and you think wiser, you fall in love for the first time. As you view this person through rose colored glasses, seeing no faults, but only the perfection of your love, you place them upon a pedestal thinking that they will never hurt you. Then the unimaginable happens, and they break your heart.
It isn’t your parents or your best friend, or your first love that let you down. It is your own expectations, which were unreal. You are broken hearted by your own projections of who who you wanted them to be, which was something that no one could live up to.
“The strongest source of empowerment is that which we find within ourselves” – Brett Blumenthal
What you discover is that it is unfair to put someone else in charge of your life. It is unfair, because each person is responsible for themselves. Handing it off to someone else will only hurt both them and you. When you build your house upon the foundation of your soul, and take it’s direction, then you can add those you love to connect to your souls home. You add your spiritual beliefs, your family, your friends, your career – everything you want in life, but the empowerment that comes from that foundation is what makes everything run.
“I came to believe that my identity goes beyond the outer roles I play. It transcends the ego. I came to understand that there is an Authentic “I” within – an “I AM”, or divine spark within the soul” – Sue Monk Kid
The roles you play, being a wife or husband; being a mother or father; being a son or daughter, being a grandmother or a grandchild – those roles can make you happy, but they are not the source of the happiness. The source of the happiness comes from within. Otherwise you are burdening your happiness on the expectations of those roles, burdening your loved ones unfairly with the responsibility of making you happy. That is dooming yourself to be the perpetrator of a broken family filled with trauma and drama.
“We simply can’t control what comes out of people’s mouths. However, we can control how we feel about what they say” – Scarlett Jones
The same thing is true for your friends and those you work with. You can’t base your happiness on what those around you say, or do. Or don’t say or do. Have you ever worked really hard on a project at work, and no one noticed your brilliance? Were you trying to be brilliant to have others laud you, or because you loved exceeding the expectations of others? I love it when someone notices I did a good job, beat the deadline, came in under budget, etc. . , but it needs to be for your own empowerment that you feel good about it. Then if someone else does notice, that is whipping cream on the dessert, good when it is there, but not necessary to be enjoyed as a great dessert.
Have you ever planned a trip with the girlfriends and then were disappointed when others didn’t contribute and left all of the work for you to do? What really caused the unhappiness?
Miscommunication, unrealistic expectations of others? What about if you come from the viewpoint of creating an experience of joy? Being authentic enough to ask for help when you need it, without expectation of how the help shows up. Creating from that place is a gift to yourself and to those others who will be there. It takes all of the drama out of the experience, leaving a space of “WOW” for what is created. It makes you vulnerable to the beauty of what happens next.
Using the analogy of the butterfly. The caterpillar is vulnerable in creating the chrysalis, not knowing how it will all turn out. Knowing that the transformation is necessary, doesn’t make it any easier to do it. The butterfly is vulnerable as it fights to get released from the chrysalis, dry its wings so that it can take flight. It is a beautiful creation that can’t see the brilliance of the colors and designs of its own wings. Putting your own human thoughts into the analogy, this transformation into something new would be terrifying.
“Your authentic self is the source of your brilliance. It’s the universal you – the person you always thought you could be before your fears and beliefs about what is really possible reined in this brilliant reality. Getting in touch with the source of your brilliance and staying connected will make you shine every day. Tapping into your intuition is how you will discover your authentic self and your true brilliance” – Angela Artemis
There is no manual provided when you tap into intuition and transform your life from the ego driven life, to the life of being self-empowered and fueled from within. It is a journey of self-discovery. It is scary and terrifying because you will almost certainly fall and have to get back up many times.
You also have the joy and satisfaction of knowing that it is your own magnificent journey. There is a tunnel that you drive through when you travel to Yosemite National Park. On one side of the tunnel you have beautiful mountains and trees and you think this is what the park is about. Then as you emerge through the tunnel it is like arriving on another planet. While what you saw before the tunnel was beautiful scenery, it pales in comparison to the vista that opens before you as you exit the tunnel.
“If you push through that feeling of being scared, that feeling of taking risk, really amazing things can happen” – Marissa Mayer
Discovering your true authentic self and living from that place is like coming out of that tunnel. You thought you were happy before, but it pales in comparison to the true source of happiness when you live from within. Every day you connect, lose connection and reconnect to that brilliance of your soul’s intuition. You learn to believe in your future self. It is like the beauty of that butterfly taking flight. Miracles take place every day. Tap your true potential. Spread those wings and fly.
The first Saturday of every month we get together on Zoom to talk about our challenges, to encourage each other, and provide inspiration to continue on our individual journeys. As we share the lessons of each one’s individual journey, resilience is grown for everyone. Join us for the next conversation and become even more inspired to reach out and pull your dreams into reality.
What I love about this quote with the photo I found, is the dichotomy of how part of her seems to be like the ancient stone and part of her is golden and light filled, looking like she is still alive fighting her battles. When we are fighting a desperate battle, sometimes it feels like we can’t take one more step. Like we have turned to stone. Like the internal battle between what we know we have to do (taking the next step) and how we feel (we can’t move another step) is literally dividing us and tearing us in two.
Remember how far you have come, all the battles you have won, the fears that you conquered, and tell that person who is trying to bring you down to go to hell.
We all have several groups or individuals who tear us down. Those well meaning friends and loved ones who don’t want to see us get hurt, so they tells us that we can’t or shouldn’t try to be successful in our chosen endeavor. That we are risking too much. That we are doomed to fail. That it is impossible, so why take the chance of evitable failure?
Be the person who stays strong even when you have every reason to break down.
Then there is that group that just can’t bear for someone to be successful and so they tear down others to make themselves feel better. They are too afraid to take any kind of risk that would have the potential of making them look bad. Bullies fall into this category. They can’t stand seeing someone better at something than they are, so they tear you down whenever you show any desire to have a better life or be a better person.
Our greatest battles are those with our own minds.
– Jameson Frank
And lastly the worst group of all, our own minds. That voice inside of our head that tells us all of the reasons why we shouldn’t try. That reminds us of every failure we have had starting at birth and going forward through time to this very moment. That tells us the horror story of everyone who has tried and failed in the history of mankind. That voice that will not shut up and that we can’t escape from.
You may have to fight a battle more than once to win it.
– Margaret Thatcher
It doesn’t matter how many battles we fight and lose. It doesn’t matter how many battles we have to fight over and over again. What matters is that we fought. That we learned something from it. That we not only survive the battle, but that we thrive after we have either won or lost it. I heard this analogy and I loved it. Everything comes out in the wash!
Fear makes the wolf bigger than he is.
– German Proverb
Every problem that we see as something that will take us out of the battle, that seems insurmountable, think of the problem like a washing machine. The problem may twist us in a knot, it may spin us around until we lose our balance and fall down. It may knock us down the hillside, and as we roll through the mud, as the rocks cut at us, and the nettles sting us, in the end, we will come out cleaner, brighter and better than before we entered the wash. This is because “everything comes out in the wash”. Meaning that coming out the other side, meaning that whether we win or lose, we were not defeated. We are only defeated when we quit.
In a society that profits from your self doubt, liking yourself is a rebellious act.
I love this! All you have to do is watch commercials to see how profitable self doubt is. We are taught to have a “lack mentality”. The saying that you can’t be rich enough or skinny enough, or beautiful enough. That we need to spend more money on things, to have the latest cars, the latest gadget, to sculpt our bodies with surgery, to move to a bigger and more expensive home, to ask our doctor for the latest designer drugs that have more side effects than the issues they are supposed to cure. All ways to make us happy, when none of those things will make us happy. The place to start is to love ourselves and then build from that space the life that spreads that happiness out into the world.
When life demands more of people than they demand of life – as is ordinarily the case – what results is a resentment of life almost as deep-seated as the fear of death.
– Tom Robbins
I was asked today what LemonadeMakers is all about. This quote really states it pretty well. When my nephew was murdered, and when anyone in life has such a life shattering moment occur, you really have two choices. You can demand more of yourself, and surmount the problem. If you don’t, then the second choice is defaulted to. You fall into resentment, victimhood, depression, etc. . , you stop living life and you start existing until death takes you out of life. I didn’t want our family to fall into that deep crevasse and be buried alive until they died. I wanted us to transform what had happened to us, into something that happened for us. I wanted to bring something positive out of that debilitating experience and share it with you.
Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it.
– Charles Swindell
Successes in life come from struggles. The butterfly has to fight to release itself from the chrysalis. If you open it up, the wings become deformed and it can’t fly. We are the same. The fight to transform life’s lemons into lemonade is what strengthens us and makes the transformation more than a temporary change. When we have struggled to fight the inner demons; when we have fought the uphill battle of addiction; when we have taken step after step through the mud and swamps of personal failures – we know that we will never, ever, go back there. That we will never again, ever, allow anyone to make us feel like we aren’t worthy of a seat at the table.
“Too many times we stand aside
And let waters slip away
’til what we put off ’til tomorrow
Has now become today
So don’t you sit upon the shoreline
And say you’re satisfied
Choose to chance the rapids
And dare to dance the tide . . “
We cannot become what we want to be by remaining what we are.
– Max Depree
I love to read great books. I have love affairs with the characters, watching them undergo their transformational hero’s journeys through the pages to the end of the story. I get great ideas from the authors words, that send me speeding down the side roads of my own life. Every year I look back at what in my life I shed like an old skin, and what ways I have changed as I try to improve my own life.
The most important question to ask is, “What am I becoming?”
– Jim Rohn
I have a rule, that I can’t bring a new thing into my house, unless I let go of something that is already there. I love to send boxes to the goodwill or some other second hand store. I think about the clothes I give away as going to a new person who will enjoy them just as much as I did. I think about the books I have read, laughing and crying my way through them and how they will stir the emotions of another reader.
I love the person I’ve become, because I fought to become her.
– Kaci Dianne
In this same way, I look at my beliefs, my habits, my lifestyle. When I want to get healthier, work on improving my finances, grow in my own self knowledge, I realize that in order to make these transformational changes in my life, I have to let go of something that is no longer serving me. I have to step outside the comfort zone and pay the tolls to walk down a new path, to undertake a new journey.
I know not who I am, simply that I am forever becoming exactly what I am meant to be.
– Becca Lee
There is so much more to us than we are aware of. I like the word developing. Like the developing of film. When we look outside and take in a scene, there are certain things that attract our attention. We miss most of the scene we are looking at because we simply see what our filters let us see. But if you snap a photo and enlarge it and go over it and over it, there is so much more there than we were aware of. If you were to grid out the photo and examine each block of the grid, you would probably see insects, birds, small animals and lots of plants. You would look deeply into the shadows to see what is hidden in the semi darkness.
Dear Self, This is going to be your year. So dust off your sh*tkickers and let’s get started. All my love, Me
Taking that same view into our own personal lives can be a real eye opener. We are all worthy of being fully developed into the magnificent beings that we are capable of being. I remember that when I was growing up I had two of my sisters and my brother develop into artists through classes in school. I can’t draw a stick figure and I was always jealous. My mom always wished she could draw and paint like they could. Sometime in her early 50’s she was talked into taking an art class with her best friend. I have hanging on my wall in the living room a painting that she did. It is amazing that what she discovered and developed from one art class, is that she could in fact draw and paint.
Always go with your passions. Never ask yourself if it’s realistic or not.
– Deepak Chopra
Inside of all of us are these amazing talents we don’t know we have. We just haven’t taken the time and energy to do that thing we always wished we could do. We just don’t have the confidence and courage to step out and take the chance that we might be really good at something that we think we are terrible about. We just haven’t decided what is behind fears door #1, #2 or #3.
Think of three things what you have always wanted to learn how to do – play a musical instrument, learn how to dance, learn a craft of some sort, paint, pottery, woodcraft – whatever it is. Now take photos of those things and paste them on a piece of paper and then cut out some doors from a magazine and tape the doors over the three things you have always wanted to learn how to do. Now just sit there and free write all of the “reasons” why you can’t learn about what is behind door #1, then do the same thing for door #2 and #3.
I began to realize how important it was to be an enthusiast in life. If you are interested in something, no matter what it is, go at it fullspeed. Embrace it with both arms, hug it, love it and above all become passionate about it. Lukewarm is no good.
– Ronald Dahl
Now I am giving you a magic wand that is called enthusiasm. I want you to waive it over the three doors and grant yourself one wish. Open up the door that most calls to your heart and soul and write down how you will feel when you are doing this thing. I want you to write it in the present tense, that you have taken the classes or lessons and now you can play the piano, or dance the waltz or you just built a cabinet or rebuilt a car engine. How happy and joyful do you feel? Now go back to all of those “reasons” why you can’t do what is behind that door. Cross through each one as you name the fear behind it. Fear of success, fear of failure, fear of not being good enough and so on. Now go out and learn what you need to know to bring that dream out from under the bed, dust it off, shine a light on it, and figure out how to do what you need to do to “get it done”.
If you want to be successful, it’s just this simple.
Know what you are doing.
Love what you are doing.
And believe in what you are doing.
– Will Rogers
“Running away from your problems is a race that you will never win” – Unknown
I think it is several things. The realization that there is nothing that you can do to change the situation. You can only change yourself. If the situation doesn’t change after that, then it is time to ask yourself “why am I still here?”.
Years ago I have interviewed for a new job and was hired. The first hour of my first day at the new job, I knew that I had made a mistake. The owner of the company had a lot of anger issues in how he treated his employees. He wasn’t the person I had interviewed with and when I was shown around the office he wasn’t there. If he had been, and I saw how he treated his employees I never would have accepted the position. As an example he would walk around the office and open the paper drawers for the fax machines. If they were down even a few sheets of paper, and even if the receptionist had filled them 5 minutes ago he would start yelling and cursing at her.
The Saturday of my first week there, I went into the office to set up my desk with the various underwriting guidelines they used for several different companies. While I was there, the owner of the company came in and we started talking. I had already worked for an owner like him, and I had sworn I would never allow someone to treat me like that again. So I told him very clearly that the first time he yelled and swore at me, like I had seen him do to others, would be the day I quit.
“Be Brave. Remember that bravery is not the lack of fear, but the ability to move forward in spite of fear” – Unknown
The day eventually came when it happened. I went into the storage area and grabbed a box, and started putting my personal things in the box. Shocked, he asked me what I was doing. I reminded him of that conversation and said I was quitting. As far as I know, I was the first person that he ever apologized to for his bad behavior, and he never yelled or swore at me again.
Now I needed that job to support my family. But I had made a promise to myself to never let anyone demean me again. It took a tremendous amount of courage to go and grab that box. I was determined to be true to my word to myself. I chose to love myself, over fear of losing the job and income needed to support my family. Does thinking about that scare you, as much as it scared me?
“Promise me you’ll always remember: You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think” – A. A. Milne
have you stayed in instead of leaving? You tell yourself that you have no choice but to stay. But you always have choices. Your happiness starts with you. Not only how you treat yourself, but how you give permission to others to treat you. I could only make that choice because I loved myself, and trusted that doing the right thing would work out in the end.
“With courage you will dare to take risks, have the strength to be compassionate, and the wisdom to be humble. Courage is the foundation of integrity” – Mark Twain
“If you’re brave to say “good bye”. life will reward you with a new “hello”. He also said, “You are what you believe yourself to be” – Paulo Coelho
The only way to discover what you are truly capable of, is to take leaps of faith across the chasms. To leap up into the heights of trees. It is what is necessary to push out the boundaries of your comfort zone, or to decrease the size of your tolerance zone, whichever the case may be.
“Note to self: You don’t have to be brave every single minute. Sometimes, you rest. You say, “I’m not brave enough for that . . . right now”. But you will be. Soon” – Nanea Hoffman
“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are” – e.e. cummings
Transformation gives you the chance to rewrite the story of who you are and who you are capable of being. There are many things in our life that we give negative meanings to. But what if you gave pain the definition that it shows you that which is not right for you? This would be a positive thing to know – what doesn’t belong to me or my life. It is hard to leave something or someone behind you, to let them or it go. It is hard until you decide to do it. Then it becomes easy. It isn’t the leaving that is hard, it is the decision.
Envy is another word that has a bad rap. What if envy simply shows you things which you may wish to empower in your own life? That would be a great thing to know – things I want in my life and can empower myself to obtain. In our lives we have the habit of settling. We settle with that 10 lbs of weight that we can’t seem to lose. We settle with our job, thinking what we have is better than nothing. We settle, settle, settle, because the reality is that we don’t know what we really, really want.
I am always stuck. I am always stuck between giving people everything because I am dying to create meaningful relationships, and giving them nothing at all because then if they leave, at least I’ll be left whole.
– (via yoymenoyhoy)
Your life is yours to live, no matter how you choose to live it. When you do not think about how you intend to live it, it lives you. When you occupy it, step into it consciously, you live it.
– Gary Zukav
Take a moment to think about this past week in your life. How many things are habitual that you do? How much of your life is lived on autopilot? You get up in the morning, shower, brush your teeth, . . . daily habits that we don’t think about if we should do or not do. Now think about how much of your life you actually thought about living? Did you do anything new? Did you plan out a trip to somewhere you’ve never been? Did you drive down a different street going to or from work that you’ve never been down before? Did you do anything different than the previous week, month or ever year? How much of your life is lived consciously? Can you say like Alice in Wonderland, “I knew who I was this morning, but I’ve changed quite a few times since then?”
There is a saying that we have two ears and one mouth, because we are supposed to listen twice as much as we speak. I think that this ability to listen also applies to listening to our inner voice. I know that this is something that I constantly practice.
Trust your instincts. Intuition doesn’t lie.
Do you ever have that nagging feeling as you are walking out the door to go to work or run errands? That feeling that you are forgetting something, but can’t think of what it might be? Do you run down your mental checklist and don’t see anything that you have forgotten? Then later, something happens and you realize what it was you forgot? Happens to me all the time. That is the inner voice talking, but not being listened to.
The more you trust your intuition, the more empowered you become, the stronger you become, and the happier you become.
– Gisele Bundchen
It is the same voice that tells you stay away from that person – you know the one that makes your skin crawl? It is like a radar warning you away from danger or from a bad relationship. Have you ever pushed that voice down saying, “there is nothing wrong with this person” to yourself, only to regret later not listening to it?
The intuitive minds is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.
– Albert Einstein
When I worked for a major bank in San Diego years ago I had that feeling about a new hire. I was a mortgage loan supervisor at the time, and every new loan would come across my desk and I would assign the set up clerk and loan processor for the file. This new hire literally made my skin crawl. I told the branch manager that there was something majorly wrong with this guy, but he passed the background check, so that was all he cared about. So I went through each new loan submission this guy turned in and rejected almost all of them as having something wrong with the documentation (translate loan fraud).
Our office was on the 15th floor facing the freeway. There was a side road that ran along the freeway and one afternoon everyone was at the windows watching something going on down below. When I went to see what was going on, this loan officers Porsche was alongside the chain link fence next to the freeway and it was on fire. The fire department was there and as they were shooting water at the car, I could see these funny sparks shooting out around the vehicle. Pretty soon I saw the police arrive and they handcuffed the loan officer and put him in the back of the police car.
Turns out he had several hand guns and rifles in the trunk of the car along with ammunition. It was live ammunition going off that was creating the sparks. It was a few days before he came back to work, and he was fired. I never let my branch manager forget that I had told him that there was something wrong with that guy. Sometimes we just know intuitively when something isn’t right.
Problems are the gifts that make us dig out and figure out who we are, what we’re made for, and what we’re responsible to give back to life.
– Tony Robbins
This inner voice is the key to having a life of transformation that doesn’t throw us into “dark night of the soul” transformations. When we listen to this voice, reflect on what it is trying to tell us we can save ourselves a lot of trouble. I love Tony Robbins quote because it puts a slightly different spin on knowing ourselves. We need to understand our place in this world, in order to figure out what we are responsible to do with our life. The biggest changes we have made in our life usually come out of the biggest challenges. It shows us who we really are when we pull back the curtains and stop pretending to be the “All Powerful Wizard”. It shows us how to pay it forward and do good with our life.
Knowing yourself means being able to separate the true from the false in yourself – love from emotion, joy from sentiment, will from desire.
– Barry Long
I am sure that most of us have heard of the saying, take 10 deep breaths, then talk. It is critical that we pause before reacting. What is so important about taking the deep breaths, is that it helps us step out of the whirlpool of emotions that we are drowning in. We can step back and see from a less emotional viewpoint what really needs to be said, or done at that moment. It allows us to reconnect the heart and mind, so that we can make good decisions instead of emotional ones.
Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.
When I was growing up, there was a lot of yelling and fighting between my parents. It was one of the things that I used to say, “I won’t be this kind of parent when I grow up.” When my kids would do something that made me mad, the house rule was they had to go to their room. When I was done being mad, and able to have a conscious conversation about their behavior then I would go to their room and we would have a talk about what had happened.
When you know yourself you are empowered. When you accept yourself you are invincible.
– Tina Lifford
I think that the hardest part of this quote is not the knowing oneself, it is the accepting part of it. It is also the most critical part. I don’t know about you, but if you are like me at all, it is hard to acknowledge the parts of me that I don’t want others to know about. Like if I hide it from myself, no one else can see it either – reminds me of the fairy tale of “The Emperor’s New Clothes”. LOL
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