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Walk Away – Not From Pride Or Arrogance, But Because That Door No Longer Leads Somewhere You Can Live

Respect yourself enough to walk away when someone puts you down, belittles you, makes you feel "less than".  Love yourself enough to walk away in dignity and respect to walk your own sacred path

Knowing when to walk away is wisdom.  Being able to is courage.  Walking away, with your head held high is dignity.


We all stand at the threshold of a great adventure every day. It can be a scary place, because we all have our individual self doubts. We have to unlearn the programming that says it is selfish to put ourselves first. It is not selfish to love ourselves, to take care of ourselves, and make our own happiness a priority. As they say on every airplane takeoff, in case of emergency, put your own oxygen mask on first, then you can help others. 

Every soul is beautiful and precious; is worthy of dignity and respect, and deserving of peace, joy, and love. 

 –  Bryant McGill

You cannot change what is going on around you, until you start changing what is going on inside of you. We need to put on that oxygen mask, so we can take stock of what inside of us is not working. We need to let go of what is not ours to fix, put up with, or allow to continue happening.

We are all born with a purpose and a passion.  It is up to you to seek out that purpose and find your passion.

 – Billy Cox

We are fragile human beings who can be destroyed by another’s words or actions. If we are not being treated with love and respect, we need to see what value we have assigned to ourselves. The people that we surround ourselves with are a reflection of how we view ourselves.  We need to get off the “reduced last chance sale rack”, and get inside the fancy glass case where the precious jewels are displayed.

You are determining the future you every day.  Will the decisions you make today lead you closer to the person you want to be tomorrow? 

– Brenna Smith

How many times for example has someone said, “Where to you want to go to dinner?” and your answer was that you didn’t know or didn’t care.  You do know what you feel like eating, but somehow, you always say, “it doesn’t matter, what you do want?”  The scriptures say something like, he who is faithful in little things, is faithful in bigger things.  What it is talking about is the principle of patterns.  What you do in the big things has been formed by the habits of what you do in the little things.  The habit of always putting others before you, started in the smaller things, like what do you want for dinner.

Be authentic!  Don’t lower your dreams to fit it with others.  If people can’t celebrate your dreams, they are probably not your friends.

 – Phineas Kinuthia

We may be afraid that no one will listen to us, so why speak.  We may be terrified that they will laugh at our dreams and say they are unattainable. We fear being judged as unworthy, not enough.  We don’t want to be all alone and so we abdicate our life away, so that we will be accepted and fit in. This is the story that we tell ourselves so that we don’t have to change.

Instead we can start making choices that feed us, energize us. We can choose to be unstoppable. To be bigger than any worries that are buzzing around us. Those buzzing worries are just scenario’s that no longer serve to build us up. Release what is no longer serving you. Open the window shooing the fly to go buzz its way outside.

Sometimes the hardest thing to do, is also the right thing to do.

The universe is always speaking to us . . . sending us little messages, causing coincidences and serendipities, reminding us to stop, to look around, to believe in something else, something more.

– Nancy Thayer

You are more than you have shown yourself to be so far. You are more than you have been willing to see. You are stronger than you know. Trust your intuition and live a courageous life. 

Respect your efforts, respect yourself.  Self respect leads to self discipline.  When you have both firmly under your belt, that’s real power.

– Clint Eastwood 

Today is the day to get up and walk down your sacred path. Choose to dwell in divine possibility. Awaken to the divine guidance that has been sending you messages. Believe in the divine plan, that you are more capable than you ever dreamed. Remember that you will never had to sacrifice your dignity for your destiny.  If it feels like that is the choice, then your intuition is telling you to pass that choice by. 

Be not the slave of your own past – plunge into the sublime seas, dive deep, and swim far, so you shall come back with self-respect, with new power, with an advanced experience, that shall explain and overlook the old.  

– Ralph Waldo Emerson

The Butterfly Effect Is, Everything Happens For A Reason, Change One Thing, Change Everything.

Above life's chaosa butterfly flaps its wings Everything changesLearn how to see.  Realize that everything connects to everything else.

  – Leonardo da Vinci

Change is a funny thing in our lives.  It happens everyday.  A seed breaks its shell and begins growing a plant.  The Apple Tree blossoms, forms the bud of an apple that grows and ripens.  The seeds are sown, they grow and produce according to their kind, and they are harvested, eaten and the process begins again.

In 1963 Edward Lorenz presented “The Chaos Theory” to the New York Academy of Science and was laughed out of the room.  Thirty years later, this theory was accorded the status of a “law” when physics professors proved it to be true. The original theory stated that, a butterfly flapping his wings set molecules of air in motion, which moved other air molecules and so forth until a hurricane was set in motion on the other side of the planet.  This change effect, states that in our own lives, even a small change can bring about a revolutionary impact in our lives.

We can look at this through the analogy of the ripple in a lake.  A raindrop hits the still water and starts a ripple.  Then another raindrop, and another, and so on.  Each one creates its own ripple.  These ripples expand out, and end up striking each other as the raindrops fall.  Each of these tiny ripples impact each other to create chaos in the still water.  In the same way, our thoughts, words, and the little details and actions that we complete or leave undone each minute, hour and day impacts not only our life, but the lives of others, both near and far.

Every single thing you do matters.  You have been created as one of a kind.  You have within you the power to change the world.

  – Andy Andrews

Your destiny is bound to the destiny of others.  They say, “the devil is in the details”.  The reason this is true is because it is the details that really change you, and the world around you.  You might think that big events change the world, but if you study history and trace backwards, it comes down to something that was thought to be insignificant, that really sets it all in motion.

Think back to something that happened in your life that you can see totally impacted your life.  Trace backwards to where the event really started.  Not the moment that all of the dominoes crashed down, but to the event that started the dominoes to tilt.   A close friend had some major changes happen in her life in the past 10 months.  She didn’t see the connections until just this past week.  When she saw them, she was astounded at what started the whole pattern to breakdown.

My friend and her husband decided the end of last year to move into a new condo unit.  It was a much nicer unit with more space and a great view.  The new condo was renting for $600 more a month than they had been paying.  It also had additional utilities payments that had been included in their rent for the previous condo.  So like most of us, she looked at her monthly budget to determine how they would be able afford the higher rent.

Her old place was next to a Starbucks, and they had been in the habit of going there for breakfast every single day.  So the amount of money they were spending a month, was just about equal to their higher rent payment.  So she thought they would just stop going to Starbucks, and the higher rent would be easily absorbed into their lifestyle.

They moved into their new home and adjusted their spending habits as planned.  This was the detail that escaped my friend when she made this decision, that she saw when she looked backwards.  My friend was contracting her wealth energy by making this decision.  Starbucks was part of her wealth profile.  She felt wealthy by going there everyday, and spending that much money on coffee.  It gave her the expansive energy of abundance.  She could afford to do this, therefore she was wealthy.

A few months later, she noticed that her business was slowly contracting and they were month over month earning less money.  This in turn caused her to further retract her spending habits.  Then my friends husband told her he was leaving her.  He had reconnected with his first wife and decided to divorce my friend, and begin a new life with his ex-wife. 

My friend was devastated, as she hadn’t seen it coming.  It was like she was getting hit after hit.  At one of their meetings to discuss their divorce, she finally got enough courage to talk to him about what had happened.  She asked him, when his feelings for her changed?  He told her that it was after they moved.  He felt like they were losing their lifestyle, and that it started with Starbucks and then continued on to other things. He didn’t want to live that way.

That was when the “lightbulb” went off in her head.  Starbucks had been the energy of her feeling wealthy. When she made that decision, that started the rain drops hitting her lake.  The more raindrops that fell, the more the ripples contracted her wealth energy, which caused her business to lose more revenue.  Those ripples hitting upon each other changed every bit of positive flowing energy in her life.  It was contraction after contraction in every aspect of her life. 

Perhaps the butterfly is proof that you can go through a great deal of darkness yet become something beautiful.  While she has been through hell the past few months, as soon as she saw the connections forming she immediately started shifting her energy back into the space of abundance.  Her business has fully recovered, and is currently more successful than it was this time last year.  She learned a powerful lesson that has been known for centuries. 

Everything is alive; everything is connected.

  –  Cicero

She feels that if instead, she had thought expansive thoughts, such as what can I do to increase my revenues to afford a higher rent, that her business would have grown and expanded.  They would not have had to reduce their lifestyle, and things would have continue along the same path with her husband.  Now while we can’t say for sure that her marriage would have not ended, but it certainly seems possible that she is correct.

Think back into your own life when you had a situation like my friend.  A time when life started going downhill fast.  A time when one domino after another seemed to be falling.  A time when you hit rock bottom.  Now trace it back to right before it all started falling apart.  There in that space, you made a decision, that was probably a decision of contraction.  There was something there that was a tiny detail, that you didn’t realize was connecting your life and holding it all together. 

When one tugs at a single thing in nature, one finds it attached to everything else.

  –  John Muir

This is so important to remember.  Contraction of energy will cause our connections to spin out of control.  It is expansion of energy that grows into abundance.  It is expansion of energy that creates love and compassion to one another.  This is what we need more of, both in our personal lives and the world.  It is the answer to all questions, expansion of love.

Humankind has not woven the web of life.  We are but one thread within it.  Whatever we do to the web, we do to ourselves.  All things are bound together,… all things connect.

  – Chief Seattle

Remove The Boundaries And Make Your Dreams A Reality

 The Boundaries are Imaginary.The Rules are made up.The limits don't even exist

In 2013, in Oregon, teenage sisters Hanna (age 16) & Haylee (age 14) lifted a tractor to save their father pinned underneath.

In 2015, in St. John’s, Newfoundland, Nick Williams lifted a four-wheel-drive vehicle to save a young boy pinned beneath its tire.

In 2015, in Vienna, Virginia, Charlotte Heffelmire was able to momentarily use incredible strength to free her dad from a GMC pick-up truck.

The only thing limiting us in life is our belief that there are limits.

  – unknown

What do these three things have in common? They are what we call miracles, extreme feats of strength. Adrenaline on overload. What they demonstrate is that the rules, boundaries and limitations don’t exist. Why? Because we can blast through them, when we don’t stop to think about it. These examples show people that did something their mind’s would have told them was impossible. But because someone they loved was in danger, they did the impossible.

I don’t think people should have boundaries put on them, by themselves or society or another gender, because it is our birthright to experience life in whatever way we feel best suits us.

  – Hilary Swank

There was a commercial at Super Bowl XLIX for Always #LikeAGirl. In the video they have a woman show them what it was like to run like a girl, then a young teen, and preteen and little girl. The older girls ran in an unreal way that was weak and ineffective. The younger girls ran as fast as they could. The commercial highlighted the fact that women especially, when they hit puberty take in limitations to what they can do and be. 

Our beliefs are just thoughts with emotions tied to them that we’ve taught ourselves to believe are true. 

  –   JV Crum III

As teenagers, in order to fit in, we start holding back on what we can do.  75-80% of all negative thinking patterns come from negative beliefs that we make up about ourselves.  When I started school, I was four years old, turning five in November and entered first grade, because my school didn’t have a kindergarten.  So I was very small and always 1-2 years younger than everyone each grade.  I was always last to be chosen for any sport activity and so I formed this belief that I wasn’t good at sports.  Because of this belief I never tried to be good.  To this day, I am not active in any sports.  This is just a belief, and only my reality as long as I let it be. 

Beliefs have the power to create ad the power to destroy.  Human beings have the awesome ability to take any experience of their lives and create a meaning that disempowers them or one that can literally save their lives.

   – Tony Robbins

Ernestine Shepard, is a body builder.  She believes that age is noting but a number.  Because of that belief she is doing some amazing things.  When she was 56 years old she decided to become a body builder.  In 2010 she entered the Guinness Book of World Records as the oldest female body builder.  Now almost 80 years old she is still going strong.  She has been on Oprah and recognized throughout the world for what she is doing. She teaches an Energy Fitness Class at a gym.  She has a video created by Prevention Magazine.  She is an excellent example of it is never to late to take a negative belief about ourselves and break through the self imposed limitations with a new positive belief.

Don’t limit yourself.  Many people limit themselves to what they think they can do.  You can go as far as your mind lets you.  What you believe, remember, you can achieve.

   – Mary Kay Ash

All of us continue to allow limitations to rule our lives as adults. Some limiting beliefs are conscious and some unconscious. What we need to realize is that they are all just a belief of our imagination. At one time, the saying was man will never fly. If god had meant for man to fly he would have been given wings. But people like the Wright Brothers refused to allow that limiting belief hold them back from their dream.  Your beliefs either challenge you to get creative.  You allow your mind to rise up and create what is need to be successful.  Failures come about because instead of rising up, our mind create road blocks of all of the reasons why it can’t possibly work or why we are not enough to make it happen.  This path of limited thinking leads down into failure.

 You can have anything you want, if you are willing to give up the belief that you can’t have it.

   –  Robert Anthony

People with boundary problems usually have distorted attitudes about who is responsible for failures in their life.  It is because our parents made mistakes in how we were raised.  It is because we have relationships we are in right now don’t allow us the freedom we need to be successful.  It is because we don’t have a college degree.  It is because we are poor.  It is because someone is out to get us at work.  The excuses list could go on and on.   The truth is that they have built boundaries all around them, painted themselves into the corner.  The corner is limiting, but it feels safe.  They lack the courage to step over the line and actually risk pursuing something they want.  They are just plain afraid of any change in their life.

Boundaries are for those who are too afraid to take the leap.

  – quoted from @Business Beware


If you accept a limiting belief, it will become your truth.  What walls have you built over the door of opportunity that you are ready to blast into bits? What limiting belief are you ready to let go of?

Share with us your limiting belief that you are letting go of.   Your share will help all of us to do the same.

We Can Go Further Than We Think

_Be brave enough to travel the unknown path, and learn what you are capable of._Rachel WolchinYears ago, when I was young, I had opinions on what would I do, if “such and such” happened in my life. I think that when most of us hear of an experience that someone has, we think “well if that happened to me, this is what I would do”. We sometimes don’t agree with the decision that another has made, when that same thing happened to them.  The lemons that life gives us are not supposed to paralyze us.  They are not supposed to make us bitter.  They are not supposed to make us give up on life.  They are to help us dig down deep and discover what we are capable of.

Who I am and what I am capable of doing has always managed to surprise me.

  – Jodi Picoult

When life does hand us lemons, and we are the one trying to make lemonade out of it, many times we come to a totally different decision. There are many reasons for this. Each of life’s lemons come to us wrapped up in a different series of circumstances. You could look at multiple experiences of someone losing a loved one to violence, and you would find that each instance was handled in a different way. This is because although the label may be the same “man killed by random shooting”, the circumstances in each case tell their own unique story.

You can’t judge my choices without understanding my reasons.

  – Unknown

In 1995 Tariq a pizza delivery man was shot and killed by a 14 year old gang member. Initially Azim, Tariq’s father could barely function. But he came to understand that the 14 yr old boy named Tony who killed his son, was also a victim. He felt called to forgive Tony, and became friends with Tony’s grandfather and guardian. He started a foundation to help kids stop killing other kids. He began talking with kids in schools about the realities of that lifestyle and the importance of making right choices.

He made lemonade out of his lemons. This foundation (http://tkf.org/) has grown into an organization of 13 full time staff members and 30 volunteers that mentor over 20,000 students each year. In the article I read, in 13 years they had touched eight million kids (the foundation is now over 20 years old). But I would bet that if you had asked him if this is the road he would take if someone killed his son, this is not the answer he would have given. His unknown road that he journeyed on revealed what kind of man he truly was. This is forgiveness in action. 


If we all did the things we are capable of, we would astound ourselves.

  – Thomas A. Edison

We are all on a road, a journey to discover who we really are. What we are capable of becoming.

No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.

  – Buddha

Azim saved himself by walking the path of true forgiveness. He wanted to not only prevent other innocents from being killed, he wanted to save those other victims – “kids” becoming killers themselves. His difficult road has lead to a beautiful destination – saving others.

What I have learned in life, is to hope that I can emulate the grace I see in others lives, as they grapple with life’s lemons. That until I find myself in that same hard place, I don’t really know what my decision will be. I do know that there is no turning back. So each decision needs to be made in prayer and meditation, with that understanding.  The challenge is not just discovering who I am, but loving what I find.

Find out who you are and be that person.  That’s what your soul was put on this earth to be.  Find that truth, live that truth and everything else will come.

  –  Ellen DeGeneres

What I have learned from the lemons in my own life, is that I no longer allow someone to make me swallow up my soul, and dam up the words in my heart. That I don’t have to apologize for my imperfections, and allow the darkness of others to cover up my light. I have learned to trust my intuition and live a more courageous life.  This is who I am, a woman of deep strength who keeps walking the path, knowing that new wonders are going to be revealed right around the next bend.

I have always grown from my problems and challenges, from the things that don’t work out, that’s when I’ve really learned.

  –  Carol Burnett

(“And She Lived Happily Ever After”) Wrong. “And Then She Created A New Beginning” YES!

_If you're looking for a happy ending and can't seem to find one, maybe it's time for a new beginn

 

Jack Canfield tells a wonderful story of an elderly woman who is meeting with her minister to plan out her future funeral. She tells him all the things that she wants around her and she says that she wants a fork. Puzzled the minister asks her why a fork? So she says, “when they have the potlucks at the church you know you are going to have a special desert, when they say to save your fork. The fork is to remind everyone that the best is yet to come.”

When a friendship, relationship ends, or a loved one dies, it can seem like our broken heart is all that we have left. There can be no happy ending. That is when we need to remember the story of the fork. We need to remember that the best is yet to come. We may not even see a glimmer of what it could be. We may look at the broken pieces of our heart and think that there is no way it can be mended.  “new beginnings are often disguised as painful endings”  Lao Tzu

But what we are doing is not really mending the heart. It is giving the heart a new beginning. Think of a clear calm lake. No waves, just a perfect surface reflecting all that is around it. Now pick up a stone and throw it as far as you can into the lake. As it hits the surface, it creates a ripple on the surface of the lake. It starts small and expands out to the entire lake. Eventually the ripples expand to the point that the surface of the lake is completely calm again.  “Start where you are.  Use what you have.  Do what you can.”  Arthur Ashe.

However the lake has been forever changed. It now contains that stone on the bottom of the lake. This is our heart. Our heart will never be the same, as it contains both the love and heartbreak that occurred. It can come back into it’s new shape, and look the same, but it has been forever changed. It is always a new beginning.  “I feel a new beginning coming towards me and I’m running to it with open arms.:  Unknown.

So when someone or something breaks your heart, know that eventually the ripples of sorrow, loss and pain will expand out and fade away. Our heart has been forever changed by the loss, but remember the fork – the best is yet to come. A new beginning.  “Every day is a new beginning.  Treat it that way.  Stay away from what might have been, and look at what can be.”  Marsha Petrie Sue.  Trust in the magic of new beginnings.  Look forward to what is coming next.

When Life Challenges You, Hold Your Head Up High And Ride That Wave To The Shore

Feelings are much like waves, we can't stop them from coming, but we can choose which ones to surfOur feelings and emotions can at times be overwhelming. I remember when my mom passed away, that in the evenings I would get deluged with emotions of missing her, being mad at her for dying, hurting so much that I just crawled into a ball and cried until I couldn’t breathe.  There are times in your life, when your whole body is crying in such deep pain, that it takes everything you have just to take another breath.  It feels as though your soul is on fire.  It is hard to remember that feelings are just visitors, and we can let them visit, and then let them go back out the door they came in.

An entire sea of water can’t sink a ship, unless it gets inside the ship.  Similarly, the negativity of the world can’t put you down, unless you allow it to get inside of you.

 – Goi Nasu

Like a person surfing the waves, we can learn to ride these overwhelming emotions. We may crash and fall off our board, but we can choose to get right back on and ride the next wave. To me riding the wave is allowing the emotion to flow right through us, just as the wave reaches the shore and dissipates into nothing.

Life is like riding a wave.  To keep your balance, you must keep moving.

 – Eric Carlson

Sometimes your heart needs more time to accept what your mind already knows.  I think the reason that grief or anger can get us stuck in these emotions, is because we don’t allow the emotions to flow through. They can get caught in a rip tide inside of us.  We fight releasing them until we are exhausted. Sometime we struggle and we battle ourselves, denying how we are really feeling.  Other time we  wallow in these emotions, holding them to our hearts and refusing to let them flow.  Either way they will keep pushing us to the shore and then dragging us back out to sea, until we are so exhausted, that the rough surf literally beats us into the sand.

Allowing the emotions to pass through helps us to heal from the hurt. We recover much faster, and we can begin choosing good memories to dwell on. We can progress into appreciation for the time that we had with what we have lost. The truth is that we haven’t really lost anything. People and things come into our lives, serve their purpose or reason for being there, and then move on to the next thing. The important thing is that we had them in our lives for the time they were with us.

When we have a bad memory come up, we can just ride the wave to the shore, and then consciously allow it to fade into foam and dissipate.  It doesn’t have to drag us back out again.  We can release the hold we have on it, and let the feeling fade away.  As the last bubble of the foam pops, then it is time to let it go. Then we can consciously decide that we want to raise our vibrations up into higher levels.  We can raise the vibration out from the sadness, grief, or anger. We can start attracting good feelings into our space. We always have a choice, even when we think that we don’t. 

When stress and bad days hit, we are designed to reach out for the help we need.  But our natural tendency is to withdraw instead.  We shut down, hole up, limit ourselves to our own little worlds.

 – Holley Gerth.

It is important when the bad days hit, to reach out to someone we love and let them help us. 

Allow yourself to really feel, your feelings.  It’s okay to bare your soul, breakdown or cry because through that breakdown comes your breakthrough.

–  Rashida Rowe

Letting those who love us help us, is practicing self care.  It is reflecting back to those who love us, how much we love and trust them to be with us in our hour of need.  And sometimes when those that we love say they are okay, we need to hold them tight and look them in the eyes and tell them that we know that they are not okay.  And that in itself is okay, because we are going to keep holding them tight until they can breathe on their own again.

Taking a few deep belly breaths, placing our hands on our heart, and consciously reaching for something that will help us raise our awareness into something positive. I always think of the laughing baby when the dad tears the paper video or cute kittens and puppies, or a favorite song like Pharrell Williams “Happy” song.  Music has the wonderful ability to speak to us, to express what is in our hearts, that we can’t express in words.  As the “Happy” songs says, “happiness is the truth”.

 

To Catch Your Dreams, You Have To Be Brave Enough To Chase Them

_If it scares you, it might be a good thing to try._ Seth GodinHave you ever heard of the question  – If you could have dinner with anyone dead or alive, who would you want to have to a dinner party?  Eleanor Roosevelt is on my list.  She seems to have been a remarkable woman.  Her advice?

Do one thing everyday that scares you.

  – Eleanor Roosevelt 

I don’t live up to this quote, but I do try to do things that scare me.  First I procrastinate on them a little, though.  Most of the things that scare me, are things that I have never tried to do before.  So every year part of my goals, are to do things that I don’t currently know how to do.

Do you remember when you were a kid and you got your first bike?  I remember being so excited to be able to ride a bike like all of the bigger kids did.  It was a symbol of growing older.  A lot like getting your drivers license or turning 21, a true milestone.  First though you had to have training wheels. It took a time or two to figure out that they were keeping you from falling, because you had to learn to trust them.  Then came the day that you had probably been whining about, the day they took the training wheels off.  You were ready to balance the bike and ride it all alone.  After a fall or two, you figured out how to balance the bike and from then on you were no longer a baby.

What I remember most, is that even though I was scared of falling and getting hurt, I wanted those training wheels off.  Being accepted into the big kids group was more important than letting the fear stop me.  Always remember that when you are scared, you are thinking about doing something that requires you to be brave.  Riding a bicycle without training wheels for a 5 year old is being very brave.

If it’s both terrifying and amazing then you should definitely pursue it.

  – Erada

What is something that you have done this past year that required you to be very brave?  What were the training wheels that you removed, the thing that you were depending on, that you needed to let go, so that you could grow?

When I took my drivers training class, it was part of high school.  The class started right after school, and the first time behind the wheel you had to drive off a side street bordering the high school.  All of your friends would gather around the stop sign, waiting for you to drive the car out of the lot and up to the stop sign on the side road.  Of course, there were several sudden jerking stops as you drove toward the stop sign and all of your friends would laugh.  It was like a hazing in a way, because it eventually happened to everyone you knew.  At some point we would all be the object of ridicule.  But at the same time, it was like – cool, I’m driving a car!

These are the two examples that I keep in my head when I am trying to break through and do something that scares me.  Both of those things scared me, but at the same time, it was cool, look at what I am doing!  It also helps to have mentors like Eleanor Roosevelt.  People that you admire, who you can look to for guidance.   Albert Einstein is another of my dinner party guests.  He said:

A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.

  –  Albert Einstein 

I think that sometimes we are scared to want something so badly that it hurts.  We are scared of not only failing, but of succeeding and then being disappointed.  Of succeeding only to lose it later.  So we tell ourselves that we are afraid of failure, but in reality, we are afraid of success not being enough.  Of success not lasting.

Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.

  – Brian Tracy

I have really thought about this fear of failure/success.  What I have discovered for me, is that rather than a real fear, it more a feeling of anticipation.  That feeling that begins and ends in the stomach.  Like riding the roller coaster as it climbs up and up to the sky, and then hurtles you down to the earth, whipping you back and forth through the turns.  The wind blowing against you, your stomach lurching up your chest as you hold on tight.  Then all of sudden the ride is over and you are running back to the end of the line to do it again.  This kind of fear is telling you that being scared can be a thrill.  That what you are about to experience is worth breaking through the hesitation and going full out.

Life is inherently risky.  There is only one big risk you should avoid at all costs, and that is the risk of doing nothing.

  – Denis Waitley

They say that at the end of a persons life, what they talk about is the things that they didn’t take the risk and try to do.  Being in love, is one of those risks.  Being afraid of being vulnerable, of being rejected, they hold back the words.  At the end of their life they regret not telling people how they really felt, not saying “I love you” enough to those that mattered to them.  When they had the opportunity, they shrunk back telling themselves, “they know how I feel”.  While that may be true, what any person wants and needs is to hear those words.

If it doesn’t challenge you, it doesn’t change you.

 – Unknown

So whether it is learning to ride a bike, drive a car, ride a roller coaster or say “I love you” – don’t let fear hold you back.  Be brave.  Say the words, do the deeds.  Feel the fear and do it because it is scary.  Do the things that both excite you and scare you at the same time.  Live your life as fully expressed, as bravely, and as committed as you can.  Just maybe if you can do that, you’ll get more than you ever could have imagined.

All our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them.

  –  Walt Disney

 

Keep Going. Everything You Need Will Be Provided With Divine Timing

_What to Remember When You Begin.What you can plan is too small for you to live.To be human is to% (1)Life is too short to think small.  If you think that something can be done, then it is too small.  If you think something is probably impossible, that is the goal to go for.  Not because the goal itself is the thing, but because of how trying to reach it will grow you.  If it doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change youGo for the moon shot kind of goals. Moon shot goals involve others in coming together as a community to make the really big goals happen.  Moon shot goals help others to reach out past their own boundaries and limitations as they buy into helping you accomplish yours.

The will to win.  The desire to succeed.  The urge to reach your full potential.., these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence. 

  – Sabine Mondestin

The hard work of the goal is in making the vision clear.  When we can see the minute detail, then we can make plans.  With plans come steps.  With steps, we begin moving into action.  We gain a tremendous feeling of confidence when this happens.  This confidence, grants us personal empowerment.  Empowerment fuels our passion to bring the goals into reality. This is how the miracles begin.

Your limits are somewhere up there, waiting for you to reach beyond infinity.

  – Arnold Henry

It is like the infinity circle in which one part feeds and fuels the next part, in an never ending cycle.  Clarity fuels the plans.  Then plans fuel the steps.  Then steps start the wheels moving and we get action.  Action gets us excited that stuff is finally happening.  Personal empowerment comes from actions taking place.  Personal empowerment in turn fuels passion.  Passion feeds back into clarity.  Clarity begins the whole process again.  This is because as the vision starts moving forward into implementation, we get more clarity.  Clarity starts new plans.  New plans lead to revised actions.  The whole cycle begins spinning again.

Until you cross the bridge of your insecurities, you can’t begin to explore your possibilities.

  –   Tim Fargo

With engagement the divine one moves in with synchronicities and doors begin to open.  People show up, all to bring our goals into reality.  We are not meant to accomplish things by ourselves.  But no one can help us, until we help ourselves.

I used to extinguish under the weight of living, but one day, I reached into my chest, dusted off my courage, and asked myself, “where’s your fire?”

  –   D. Antoinette Foy

Be strong about your goals, and flexible about your methods.  Be willing to try things you don’t think will work.  To try things that you have never done.  We learn by discovering what will work for ourselves.  Has anyone ever tried you train you by having you watch them do the job?  They walk you through a program.  They tell you what your inputs should be.  You go back to your desk, and you can’t remember what to do.  Your notes don’t make any sense to you.  But when someone sits beside you, and guides you as you do the work, now it sinks in.  You learn by doing it yourself.  As you do the work, you have the space to think of the questions you need to ask to understand the process.  When you just learn the process you are just a cog in a machine. When you understand the process, now you can innovate.  Now you can teach it.

When you are not willing to be challenged, disturbed, or offended, you are not willing to explore your weaknesses, or ever reach your highest potential.

 –  Bryant McGill

When we become visible, we take a huge risk.  Because not everyone is going to like us.  Some people are going to hate us, just because we are different.  There will be those people that will be mean and cruel.  That needs to be okay.  We need to understand that we are not here for everyone.  We are not here with our gifts for those who don’t want them.  We are here for those that do.  The only real difference between us, is that some of us have remembered why we are here.  Others are still asleep to their true purpose.   They don’t remember their divine inheritance.    They will find fault with what you are doing, without really understanding why it bothers them so much.  They act as a challenge to help you reach your highest potential.

If you are persistent, you will get it.  If you are consistent you will keep it.

  – Unknown

Such an interesting quote.  Being persistent is how we learn something.  Have you ever listened to a two year old, asking “why”?  They are the most persistent creatures in the universe.  Persistence is how you learn.  Understanding comes from doing it consistently.  We literally sink the learning down into our bones.  I like to think of learning, as how we learned to ride a bike.  Most of us can ride a bike.  But how many of us learned how to ride with no hands?  Learned how to jump the bike over obstacles?  Learned how to do a wheelie?  We were persistent enough to learn to ride, getting back on every time we fell.  But were we consistent enough to go past the basics and learn all of the tricks of riding a bike – did we become a master?

When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.

  – Lao Tzu

How do we let the amazing out of us?  We get curious.  We think, why not?   We question, how come?   We imagine, what if?  We wonder, who can I collaborate with on this?  Curiosity is the compass that leads us to our purpose.  Our reason for being here now.

When you are tempted to give up, your breakthrough is probably just around the corner.

  – Joyce Meyer

Then we work on our true inheritance, and accept that as we become masters on this earth, that our signature will become our autograph.  A signature is so much more than just a splash of ink across the paper.  A signature is style.  It is a “look”.  It is something that says who we are.  When we see the Nike symbol, what pops into our mind?  Nike is not just about shoes.  When we hear the Coca Cola jingle, “I’d like to teach the world to sing” how does it make us feel?  Coca Cola is more than just a drink.  That is what a signature is.

You will see in the world what you carry in your heart.

  – Creig Crippen

We have so much inside of our soul waiting to come out.  That is why we risk becoming visible.  That is why we can’t think small.  Because some part of us deep inside knows how truly magnificent we really are.  Each of us is a thread in Gods tapestry.  Each of us has a part to play.  Each of us has to become visible, in order for the pattern to be seen.  Each of us has that special one of a kind signature that the world needs to see, feel, and hear.

Walking In Your Purpose Makes You Magnetic

A woman who walks in purpose, doesn't have to chase people or opportunities. Her light causes people a

Life is too short to not follow your passion and purpose in your life.  Passion and purpose are like the infinity loop, in that each one both feeds on and fuels the other.  When they are working in tandem, there isn’t anything that you can’t accomplish.  This is the space of the “high” where you feel invincible.  Where everything just falls magically and magnetically into place.  There is purpose in your searching, which is fueled by your passion.  You search for the answers in response to the hunger that both drives and fuels your soul. It begins when you get the smallest glimpse of your true potential. 

The meaning of life is to find your gift.  The purpose of life is to give it away.

  – William Shakespeare

That time when you were a little child, and you saw someone doing something that just grabbed you, and you thought I want to be that or do that when I grow up.  At that moment you saw your true potential.  At some point fear of failure, or being told that you weren’t talented enough to be that or do that – something happens that puts a cork in our desire.  We bottle it up.  We bury it deep inside of us, because we are embarrassed that we ever had that thought.  Who did we think we were?

The most wonderful thing in the world is somebody who knows who they are . . . and knows what they were created to do.

  – Bishop T. D. Jakes 

There comes a time when the need of releasing that cork from that bottle, cascades out of you like a river rushing to the sea.  This need is a palpable thing.  Your heart knows it needs to released.  Your instincts keep calling to you to release it.  It keeps showing up no matter how we try to ignore it.  It just continues to transform itself over and over again.  It might show up at work one time, at our home life another.  With a loss of a loved one.  With the reconnection to an old friend.  It might show up in our spiritual life.  It keeps winding itself through our life, until we finally pay attention. 

Do what you feel in your heart to be right – for you’ll be criticized anyway.

  – Eleanor Roosevelt

Within every life, the things that require transformation, are the pieces of misinformation that we have adopted in our life as being true.  You probably don’t even know that they exist in your subconscious.  For example; If your parents were divorced when you were a child, you may subconsciously feel that if you had been a better child, they would still be married.  This might show up in your life with an intense desire to make everyone happy, to put yourself as last, to literally have the welcome mat on your face as people use you, and then leave you.  You surrender and abandon your dreams. 

You have convinced yourself that the problem is that you just aren’t giving enough of yourself away.  If you just try harder you tell yourself, then you can make everyone else happy, and only then you will finally be happy.   You keep that dream bottled up.  You tell yourself that your vision of your true potential is unattainable.  That you must settle. That whole story is a lie, a falsehood. That story needs to be transformed.

I’ve never seen any life transformation that didn’t begin with the person in question finally getting tired of their own bullshit. 

  – Elizabeth Gilbert 

There will be places where our self sabotage shows up.  Places where the shadow swings into action to stop you.  Going around the bend of the river, we may get damned up by debris.  Some busy beaver has blocked the flow and dammed up the river.  This debris is all of the obligations that we have loaded upon ourselves.  The excuses, “I am too busy or don’t have the time” and “I have no money”,  falls into this bucket.  The question comes up, what is behind the “but” excuse?  We need to get curious.  We need to start removing the debris, and figure out where it is coming from.  Each of those sticks is tied to some false belief or assumption that we have to identify and then transform.  We need to clean up the river so that we can get back into flow with our passion and purpose, back into flow with our God given destiny.

The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.

  – Socrates

At places it may seem as though we are motionless, frozen in place.  We have allowed the temporary nature of fears, to freeze the river.  It may seem like a solid block of ice, but deep beneath the surface, it is still flowing to the sea.  It may have become a small dribble, but with the fires of our passion, we can melt the ice returning the river back into its full force.

Passion requires focused direction, and that direction must come from three other areas:  your purpose, your talents, and your needs.

 – #sayquotable

Friends and family may try to sidetrack you, by diverting your river to their own benefit, but your need will find a way to get back on course. 

At times we appear to be in flood stage, where the passion is so strong that we surrender to it.  It is at these times that we learn to trust in divine providence to take us where we need to go.  With the force of the floods, overflowing the course of the river, it will speed us past boulders that were blocking our path. We remember that all limitations, road blocks, and diversions are self imposed out of fear.  We choose to leap forward over every obstacle as a challenge, we have in fact already conquered.

It must be borne in mind that the tragedy of life doesn’t lie in not reaching your goal.  The tragedy lies in having no goal to reach. 

It isn’t a calamity to die with dreams unfulfilled.  But it is a calamity not to dream. 

It is not a disaster to be unable to capture your ideal, but it is a disaster to have no ideal to capture. 

It is not a disgrace to not reach the stars, but it is a disgrace to have no stars to reach for.  Not failure, but low aim is a sin.

 –  Benjamin Elijah Mays

Sometimes the best thing you can do is not think, not wonder, not imagine, not obsess.  Just breathe, and have faith that everything will work out for the best.  It is in that space between the breathing in and out, that brief space of holding, that we hear the voice of the divine.  In this space we have the power to choose our response.  Are we going to run from the challenge of having a mighty goal in our life?  Are we going to deny our highest dreams and say that this is not our calling?  Are we going to create a disaster by not having lofty ideals to strive for?  Or are we going to reach for the stars, and really truly own that this starlight belongs to us and only us?

You are here not to shrink down less, but to blossom into more of who you really are.

  — Oprah

Gratitude is so important to happiness. Be thankful for what you are now, and keep fighting for what you want to be tomorrow – always shifting and transforming towards the magnificence that is buried deep inside.  Everything changes, seasons come and go.  We turn around and suddenly we find half the year is over.. Everything on this earth is in a continuous state of evolving, refining, improving, adapting, enhancing…, changing.  You were not put on this earth to remain stagnant. You came here to reach certain goals.  To fulfill certain dreams.  To capture the highest ideal of who you are capable of being.  You came here to not only reach the stars, but to reach beyond them. 

What Is The “Normal” That We Spend Most Of Our Life Trying To Be?

_If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be_Maya AngelouBrene Brown gives us a hint of what we are seeking when we say we just want to be “normal”.

Because True Belonging only happens when we present our Authentic, Imperfect Selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of Self-Acceptance

  – Brene Brown 

Being “normal” to most of us, means that we fit in.  That we are accepted.  That we experience a sense of belonging to a group or tribe.  So the first clue to how we achieve that sense of belonging or being normal, is that we accept ourselves for who we really are, deep down inside. We don’t rely or depend on what other people are thinking about us.  What they think about us is none of our business.  It usually has nothing to do with us.  It has to do with how our actions or lack thereof are triggering them.  And whatever triggers them is all about their own shadows.

Normal is for people without courage.

  – unknown

So why is it so hard to have that feeling?  Because we are so busy rejecting who we really are.  An easy example is what most of us do when someone has a camera – we either try to stay out of the photo, or try to position ourselves so that we are hiding whatever part of our body we don’t want to be memorialized by a photo.  Then we find fault with how we look in the photo.  How many photos do you have of yourself that you actually love?  Why not?

Normal is an illusion.  What is normal for the spider is chaos for the fly.

  – Morticia Adams

We feel that we are the only ones who feel the way that we do.  So we push the true self down into the basement of our soul, and lock the door.  Then we start building a persona to match what we think is normal.  Because this persona isn’t who we really are, we can’t really have that sense of true belonging.  Instead we run around with this sense of “trying” to belong.  What is so funny, is that almost every person in this group that we are trying so hard to fit into, is doing the exact same thing.  In fact, there are probably friends of ours who if we all took down the personas and accepted who we really are, are in fact part of our tribe that we don’t think exists.

I tried being normal once.  Worst two minutes of my life.

  – unknown

When I was in grade school and Junior High School, we moved every six months or so.  Until I was in high school I didn’t attend one school for the entire school year.  It was usually two different schools in two different towns.  This made it really hard to make friends.  What I remember most is trying to be who I thought someone would want me to be, just so that I could have a friend.  In High School I first made friends with a group of girls that were on the wild side, because the wild girls were more accepting of new people.

Now where I ran into problems was that I was an “A” student, and the wild girls were not.  So after the first experience of being put down for “A” grades, I tried to downplay my grades.  Then I started letting them slide into “B’s” to be accepted.  But the truth was that I liked school, I liked learning, I liked being the best in the class.  So I changed my friends to some that didn’t care what my grades were.  They allowed me to be who I was.  Their acceptance gave me a tiny sense of belonging, of not sticking out too far above the crowd.

If you are always trying to be normal you will never know how amazing you can be.

  – Maya Angelou

Why do we lock our true self into a chest, and bury it on the desert island?  Because we are both terrified and amazed by the colors of our soul.  We have this push-pull going on.  We have a brilliant idea, then we mentally tear it apart.  We have a dream we passionately want to go after, then we analyze it to death.  A door of opportunity opens in front of us, and we feel an intense pull, but we listen to all of the naysayers and walk past it with dragging feet.  Self Acceptance, means that we believe in ourselves.  This is risk at its highest form, because what if we are not enough?  This is where the loving the imperfect self comes in.  No one is perfect, and so by this reality, we will fail sometimes.  And that has to be okay.

I heard a voice that told me I’m essential.  How all my fears are limiting my potential.  Said it’s time to step into the light and use every bit of power I have inside.

  – Indea Erie

Alice Through The Looking Glass, in Wonderland and Underground, was always looking for adventures.

Every adventure requires a first step.

  – Cheshire Cat, Alice in Wonderland

Alice didn’t like following the rules of “normal” behavior.  It takes a lot of courage to go out on adventures.  Adventures bring out parts of us that we didn’t know were there.  It also shows us parts of us, that we may not like.  Adventures teach us to look at things differently.  Backwards, upside down, and sideways.  Adventures teach us about who we are.  “Who in the world am I?  Ah, that’s the puzzle”

I knew who I was this morning, but I have changed a few times since then. 

  – Alice in Wonderland

The more that we takes these adventures and learn about ourselves, the curiousier it gets.  This is because like the looking glass adventure, everything is opposite of what we would think.  In taking the risk and going on the adventure, what we find is more freedom to be our imperfect self.

Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change.

  – Brene Brown

How does that work?  By being curious, and having self acceptance that we are imperfect, we start to allow ourselves the room to experiment.  We start trying new things.  We mix up the parts and create something new, different and wonderful.  The more we open to change, the easier it becomes to let go of certainty.  Self acceptance means that I no longer become that mean, vindictive, cruel person in my mind to myself.  I am no longer at war with who I really am.  We are all made up of strength and struggle; of giving and receiving; of being first to do something with no guarantee that it will be returned to us or that we will be successful in the doing of it.

As you grow, you develop the ideal of where your true belonging could be – the place, the home, the partner, and the work.  You seldom achieve all of the elements of the ideal, but it travels with you are the criterion and standard of what true belonging could be.

  – John O’Donohue

It is this strong sense of belonging, of self acceptance, of self love, that enables us to have the courage to live an imperfect life as our true selves.  Don’t fear failure.  Take ownership of who you are and be proud of it.  Take chances, like they are lucky gold tickets, because they are.  No matter what, do not stop being the weird, crazy person that you are meant to be.

Transformation Is the Dance Of Life

Like the butterfly, I have the strength and hope to believe that in time, I will emerge from my ch

How can you tell if you still might be in a caterpillar stage of growth? Some questions to think about –

Do I hide my value or discount the gifts that I have for this world?
Am I tightly guarded, afraid?
Do I feel like I am stuck in the mud, unable to move?
Can I see my potential, but don’t know how to unlock it?
Do I feel vulnerable, tossed about with no control?

 
If so, how long will you allow yourself to remain in this caterpillar stage? 
 
We cannot become what we need to be, by remaining what we are.
  –   Max de Pree

Unlike the real caterpillar, we have different phases of transformation. It isn’t a one time thing, go into the chrysalis and come out a butterfly for us. We have a mind, body, and soul, which is continually growing and expanding. Which means that we have different levels of transformation and growth, both inner and outer. 
 
The journey between what you once were, and who you are now becoming, is where the dance of life really takes place.
  –   B. Angelis
Each time we feel stuck, we need to enter the chrysalis and undergo another change. Each time we realize that we have greater potential than we are using, we need to enter the chrysalis and undergo another change. When we are able to initiate change and navigate it, it brings an added bonus.  It helps us to manage the change that comes from the outside, over which we have no control.  If you have learned how to navigate your boat through choppy waters, you have some skills to navigate the storm that appears out of nowhere.  But if you have only sailed in smooth waters, then you will have no idea what to do in the storm and will likely capsize your boat.
 
Everything in your life is there as a vehicle for your transformation.  Use it!
  –  Ram Dass
Taking the caterpillar to butterfly analogy one step further, the caterpillar exists by eating up the foliage of the plants it crawls across. It feeds the caterpillar, but does nothing positive for the plants themselves. Once the caterpillar transforms into the butterfly it now flies from plant to plant and helps to pollinate the plants to bring about new life. It helps in the creation of new life, a truly positive purpose.
 
It’s never easy letting go.  But if we don’t learn the art of relinquishment, we’ll never move forward to embrace the new relationships God has for us.
  – Mary E. Demuth

In this same way, when we get stuck, hide our value, and become tightly guarded, we are not producing anything positive in the world, but rather we are just using up the resources around us. We are not giving back. We are not contributing.  We need to relinquish what we are holding on to or we can’t move forward.
 
Strength doesn’t come from what you do.  It comes from overcoming the things you once thought you couldn’t.
  – Rikki Rogers

But when we change, transform and grow, we are then in a space our being open, and sharing our values with the world around us. We pay it forward, because we delight in the joy of giving. We focus on how we can contribute to make the world a better place. We unfurl our wings to move freely in the expanded space of our transformation. We become a new creation, with a worthy cause fulfilling our divine purpose.
 
We delight in the beauty of the butterfly but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.
  – Maya Angelou

This chrysalis is the place to enter when we need a breakthrough. Where we exercise the patience to grow and transform. Persistence is needed to follow the breakdown through to the breakthrough. We can’t emerge out of the chrysalis if we don’t follow the transformation process through to the end.  Surrendering to what is, leads us to the end of the life transformation.  Spreading our wings to take flight produces the happiness of “I did it!”.
 
Behind every beautiful thing, there’s some kind of pain.
  –   Bob Dylan
 
So like the caterpillar, I know that each time I enter the chrysalis I will come out a new creation. That there is always some old part of my life, that is outgrown and no longer serving me or the world around me, that needs to end. And in that ending I will, once again have the strength to emerge, and will be transformed in some way to further the unfolding of divine destiny.

 

Love Is The Key That Frees You From Your Cage

I love me - For all that I have been, For all that I currently am, and For all that I will b

We can only be kept in the cages we refuse to see.

  – Stefan Molyneux

What cages have you freed yourself from, or are working on freeing yourself from?

These cages have been created from stories that we tell ourselves. Stories of our unworthiness and insecurities. Maybe you have totally different cages locked away in the darkness than I talk about below. What I do know, is that we all have cages, and we all have the keys to unlock them. 

Most human beings live like a bird in a cage whose door was blown away.  Out of habit, too busy gold-plating the cage, they do not soar to the ultimate possibility.

  –  Jaggi Vasudeu

For many years I kept the real me hidden and locked away. I wanted people to love me, so I hid away all of the insecurities and made a strong mask to wear in public.

I was a daughter to a wonderful mom that I loved, but was always afraid that some day she wouldn’t love me, because I had not been the perfect daughter. This was my own story, not hers.

I am a sister, who has been more a mother to my younger sisters and brother, than a sister. I love them all dearly and wanted to protect them from all dangers, but I failed them. This was my own story, not theirs.

I worked myself up the corporate ladder of a major bank, becoming a “master” at mortgage finance and earning the title of Director. Yet at the same time, I was hiding away the insecurity of being found out to be a fraud. I was a high school drop out without a college degree. This was my story, and I release it, and release it, and release it (lack of formal education is a sticky belief for me).

I am a wife to my true love, my best friend, my partner. Through 44 years we have seen good times and bad. We have four wonderful children, and now have 13 grandchildren, and soon to be great grandparents. Many times I smiled on the outside and was dying on the inside, because I didn’t know how to communicate my own needs. So instead, became a martyr for everyone else’s. This was my story, not theirs.

I am a student of life. I am confident and unsure. I am terrified and excited. I am a young girl and an old woman. I wish on stars and dream dreams. I have been through many transformations, walking through the valley of fire and shadows. I have stepped off the edges of cliffs so I could soar across chasms. I have climbed up steep mountains, only to ride the rushing rivers back down into the valley.

I am just like you. A woman of many talents, conflicting emotions, and insecurities. I have set myself free from many of the stories I told myself. because the stories themselves were just cages to keep me contained. There are more cages that await, more doors to be opened. I have a handful of keys to the cages, and I am continuing to transform every time I use a new one.

People only get really interesting when they start to rattle the bars of their cages. 

  – Alain De Bottom 

Have you started rattling the bars of your cage?  It starts with learning to love all of the parts of yourself.

I have set myself free from the cages I created with the above false stories – the cage of perfection; the cage of protecting others from life experiences; and the cage of not having a degree; all of which were locked inside the larger cage of “I am not worthy” and so must earn your love and respect with every step, knowing that nothing I do can satiate that kind of thinking.

I love myself as I am today, perfectly imperfect. And, I love myself for who I am transforming into.

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