I just wanted to take a moment to thank all of you for becoming part of our community. Thank you for taking the time to read our posts. For commenting and liking them and most of all for sharing them with others.
I wanted to let you know that you have all become special to me, because through you I have realized that I am not the only one who thinks about what I write. Thanks to you I have realized that there are many people in this world who see the possibilities that our world can become a better place.
I also wanted to take this day for helping me to be able to receive the love that you have shown to me, in encouraging me to continue to write my heart out on this page. I always dreamed of being a writer, since I was a very small girl. But I didn’t think that I had any talent. I didn’t think that what I wanted to talk about, was anything that anyone would want to read. You have no idea of the joy you have brought into my life.
Thank you! You are a blessing in my life. We are a blessing to each other.
When I look at this picture, I see a little boy with big dreams. But when he looks out over the city in the moonlight, I think that he is overwhelmed by the vastness of the city. The moon is large and full and seems to be almost overpowering.
When you have these big dreams, it is easy to look out and see that we are just a small insignificant thing that will probably have little or no impact on the world. That is when doubt starts creeping in. Then it is joined in by those parts of us that try to protect us from harm, as well as friends and family that are trying to protect us.
The voices yammer inside our head that we will look foolish. We will be laughed at as failures. Who do we think we are? Do we really think so much of ourselves that we alone have the answer to even one of life’s problems? If this idea we had was valid they whisper, then someone would have done it a long time ago.
I know that our parents want to protect us and sometimes in trying to do that they crush our dreams. Teachers may have told us that we were not smart enough or talented enough and so we give up on our dreams, and because we think that they must know – they are older and know more than we do, we follow the advice and give up.
We may have bosses that belittled our idea once when we shared it, so we closed up like a clam shell, never to speak out an idea again.
Many times our ideas scare our friends into thinking that we will outgrow them and leave them behind, so they tell us to not even try – they tell us it is too hard, you don’t have the money, influence or power to make a difference. Don’t speak up or you might get ostracized.
The voices inside/outside of us come from many directions at once and so we freeze and do nothing. I think that one of my favorite men who talked about dreams was Martin Luther King Jr. When he started I can’t imagine that he knew what a difference he was going to make in our world. He must have been overwhelmed many times by the enormity of what he wanted to do. He inspired many to stand beside him, and his legacy goes on today as we remember him and his work every year.
“Dream big and dare to fail.” Norman Vaughan Failures are not a thing to be avoided. Some big companies like Google get this and encourage failure. Failures are great teaching tools and even create shortcuts to success. Release the fear of failure, the habit of being a perfectionist. Those things are the true obstacles. “It’s the possibility of having a dream come true that makes life interesting.” Paulo Coelho
Dreams take on lives of their own when they are divinely inspired. They grow inside of us and spread out to everyone, to inspire them to join with us and help grow the dream. The dream didn’t start with us, and it will not end with us. We are like a runner in a relay baton race, getting passed the baton to continue onto the next person who will be inspired to continue running with the dream. The dream can’t be stopped, because it has a life of it’s own.
Our dreams live on, still free, still inspiring others to take up the baton in the race and be brave. Martin Luther King Jr.’s dream still lives on. He wasn’t the first person to take that baton up, and he wasn’t the last one.
Whatever dream lives inside of you, take up the baton and join in the divinely inspired race. And when it is time to pass on the baton, know that your dream will live on through those that you were able to inspire to take up the baton and continue the race.
In the world, in this moment, many are being overcome with fears. Fears of the pandemic. Fears of losing your elderly loved ones to illness and disease. Fears can be based on past experience, of knowledge of something that has happened in the past. This past fear is then projected into the immediate future of a danger that is seeking you.
Instead, Take a deep breath. Just be aware and conscious of just this single moment. This moment of inhalation or exhalation of your breath. When you just concentrate on your breathing, you see how to live outside of this kind of fear.
In this moment, you are alive, breathing. Your eyes are taking in what is around you. Your ears are hearing sounds both from near and far. You feel the softness of the material of the clothes you are wearing. Maybe the way the tag on the collar of your shirt irritates your skin. You think to yourself that you have to remember to use the scissors and cut that tag off.
If you have been outside, you might feel the rain drenched softness of the ground under your feet. The soft dirt clings to the bottom of shoes as you sink into it with each step. You smell the scent of rosemary as you walk along the path, its heady scent drifting on the breeze. The sounds of the waves crashing down on the shore drowns out the call of the sea gulls, as they ride the air currents high above you. You are awake and aware of the wonder of life itself.
If are in a state of fear, you won’t be aware of any of the sounds or smells of nature around you. So, your choice in this moment is are you to be overcome with fear, or filled with wonder?
Think of those advertisements you might see for going to Disneyland or Disneyworld. They are filled with the young children who can’t sleep because tomorrow is the special day when they enter the world of magic. Their faces are the epitome of excitement and wonder.
When was the last time, that look was on your face? The last time when you dropped the heavy burden of fears, and beheld the magic of life? This photo reflects the majesty of our world, the beauty of creation and it is how you behold the wonder of life.
Remember the movie “Dune”? The line around fear has stayed with me, Frank Herbert was a master with this thought around fear.
Fear is something that you can’t run away from. Running away only puts more distance between you and the solution to your fear. The only way to deal with fear, is to face the illusions that it brings. You can only be fearless, when you learn to recognize the illusions from what is true and real.
“Fear is not in the habit of speaking truth; when perfect sincerity is expected, perfect freedom must be allowed; nor has anyone who is apt to be angry when he hears the truth, any cause to wonder that he does not hear it” – Tacitus
Isn’t that something to wonder about? This concept that you create the fears out of your own illusions, is something to think deeply about. Illusions usually come from thinking that there isn’t enough of something that you want.
Not enough money, not enough jobs, not enough food, not enough of . . , what would happen to your fears if you could sincerely and honestly allowed a moment of perfect freedom into your world? If you could truly believe that there is more than enough, and it is just waiting for you to step out of the illusion to get it?
I couldn’t find the person who wrote the “Reality of Fear”, but I loved it. It captures the illusion of fear, in that it convinces you that the lie is truth.
You are scared of the dark it says, when really what you’re scared of is what you have projected into that darkness. You can’t see in that darkness, the possibilities of what might be there. A thief will rob you. A killer will murder you.
Your mind freezes us with “what if’s”. And the “what if’s” are made up in your mind. The monster under the bed is actually the fears in your mind, manifesting the illusion into something appearing real.
Reality of Fear
You’re are not scared of the dark . . . you’re scared of what’s in it
You’re not afraid of heights . . . you’re afraid of falling
You’re not afraid of the people around you . . . you’re afraid of rejection
You’re not afraid of love . . . you’re afraid of not being loved
You’re not afraid to let go . . . you’re afraid to accept the reality that its gone
You’re not afraid to try again . . . you’re just afraid of getting hurt for the same reason
Dear Beautiful you,
You must not be afraid to start a new chapter . . . , Yes, new beginnings can be scary, endings can be difficult, but your life is meant to be lived and your story is still unfolding . . . , So go ahead and turn the page . . . , Your next chapter is waiting – Heather Stillufsen
Your stories are in a continuous unfolding. In fact, your life is unfolding exactly as it should be.
There is always a new stretch of road ahead of you. It is up to you to continue the journey.
Sometimes you pull off into a rest stop. You need a break, to rest and take care of your body. You need to give yourself time to breathe, to love, to reflect, to be present to what is.
It is important not to get so bound up in what you are seeking, that you forget to give yourself and those around you, a love of life itself.
Loving your life is about trusting your instinct, taking chances, and learning through experiences. It’s a long time journey through the confusion. Live consciously in the moment and enjoy your life as it unfolds – The Coach (RaiseYourMind.com)
You might pull off on an exit that promises you a good meal and the needed fuel for your vehicle. You might take the scenic route to enjoy more of the beauty of the land you are traveling through. I think of the scenic route as being the opportunity to see where life is taking you.
To be able to see all of the awakening opportunities that are around every new corner. Nothing is worse than passing a door of opportunity, only to realize that it really was “a once in a lifetime” experience.
I used to live north of Los Angeles and most of my siblings live up the coast in Monterey/Santa Cruz area. The fastest way to drive up and see them is to take the I-5 up to Pacheco Pass and cross over to the coast there. The drive once over the LA mountains is not very pretty. It is miles of flat land, with some areas that are farmed, but mostly just dry dirt. There is also a town where the cows are waiting to be slaughtered and you can smell it for miles and miles – it makes you want to swear off ever eating meat again.
So, unless I am under real time constraints, I choose to go up the 101, which runs along the coast through wine country. It is a beautiful drive. It takes a little longer, but the drive is so much nicer. If you were driving up the 101 through wine country, you might want to pull off and visit some wineries, watch the waves roll in from the Pacific Ocean, or take in a tourist attraction.
The unfolding of your life is what you make of what happens for you. I firmly believe that life happens for me, not to me. It isn’t solid, cast in concrete.
It is rather like sand, that can be molded into whatever strikes your fancy. It changes. If you don’t like the way it is looking, you can make a minor change or clear off the table and start over.
But at some point, no matter where or why you pulled off the road, you will want to get back onto the road again, because you have a destination you want to reach. No one lives at an “I-5 Rest Stop”, as the destination of their life journey. You don’t stop for fuel and stay at the Shell Station for the rest of your life. And while it might seem like a good idea, you don’t live at the winery, unless you are the owners or workers at the winery.
Life is not a destination; it’s a journey. It’s not a series of goals; it’s a series of steps, of events unfolding as you make your way. Life is not all about accomplishment; it’s all about doing, participating, progressing, growing, learning – Mike Hernacki
You trust in your higher power for guidance. You trust that wherever you are in your journey, it is where you are supposed to be. Every one of life’s lemons that you have received, had a learning contained within. It might be something that becomes evident to you, while you are within the experience. Conversely, It might take years to reveal itself.
A green walnut is really hard to crack – it takes intense force to open it, and if you are successful, the insides are not good to eat. But if you wait until it has matured, (turned brown) you can open it with a simple tap and eat the tasty nut meat that is inside.
Our experiences are sometimes like that walnut, you need to wait until it is ready to be opened in order to receive its gift.
If you find yourself driving down a dirt road of dusty flat land feeling totally disenchanted, you are the only person who can turn in a new direction.
Allow grace to lead you back into being in love with life. Don’t resist. Surrender to what is, not what you are pushing to make it be. Trust in the divine to lead you back to your true destination. Trust the journey. Trust yourself to live your true life, not the shadow of one.
It always, always, always come back to self-love and self-trust.
So trust the process of your life unfolding, and know with certainty, through the peaks and valleys of your journey, that your soul rests safe and secure in the arms of God – Dan Millman
The hardest thing is to really know yourself. You are kind of like one of those hidden drawers in a roll top desk. There are a lot of things to see on the desk, which is how you show up in the world. It hides all of the physical aspects of the desk. Then when you start looking at the desk itself, and open the roll top there is another layer of things to get distracted by. All of the obvious nooks and crannies and drawers.
If you really examine the desk inch by inch you discover that something seems to be a little off. Being curious you start pushing and pulling on the wood of the desk. Inch by inch your fingers keep looking for the hidden lever, until the hidden drawer suddenly pops open. You’ve found the real you. It takes concentration, patience and the ability to be curious instead of judgmental.
“Knowing others is wisdom. Knowing yourself is enlightenment” – Lao Tzu
So what does this really mean? Taking this even a step further, is accepting what you discover about yourself.
“When you know yourself, you are empowered. When you accept yourself, you are invincible” – Tina Lifford
For me, it is how as children you are taught what being successful is. You are taught to get good grades. You are taught to go for higher education for a particular type of job. Medical fields, teaching fields, computer science fields and so on. You are taught to excel in school and then go to work and excel in your chosen profession. In school I was lucky enough to have an amazing teacher who taught me to take concepts apart to truly understand what they meant. To use the How, What, Why kinds of questions to explore what it really means.
“Know who you are. Know what you want. Know what you deserve. And don’t settle for less” – Tony Gaskins
What you should do first is really understand yourself. Know what your passions are in life. What lights you up and makes you happy? Having a healthy self esteem, that really knows what your values and talents are. Most importantly, what your personal genius is. Once you have identified those, you know who you are at your core being. What makes you happy. How you can best serve others.
Then it is up to you to go out and find the profession that meets all of the criteria. Instead you have been so busy being educated, that you missed the importance of self knowledge in the equation. Instead, you have navigated or simply stumbled into a profession that is not a true calling. It’s a paycheck.
How did you choose that profession? Maybe on the advice of a favorite teacher. Maybe you were steered by your parents into what they felt was a financially rewarding career. Maybe it was for the glamour of the profession. In Hollywood many careers are based on dreams of being a Emmy awarded singer, or winning an Oscar. If it is truly your “dream job”, would you do it even if they didn’t pay you?
What did you really know about this profession before you entered it? What illusions did you have about what your profession would give back to you? How did your passion and purpose play into this profession? What about your personal genius? That thing you do that is so easy for you, that you don’t understand why everyone can’t do it? Does it fulfill your divine destiny? Clarity is powerful. Pay attention to day dreams, where your mind wanders is an important clue to what you are really seeking in life.
“Are we living our dream? Or are we living somebody else’s dream?” – Arianne Huffington
Truly knowing who you are requires a toughness of the soul. Knowing yourself in all of the ways that matter, means that you:
“You have to love yourself, because no amount of love from others is sufficient to full the yearning that your soul requires from you” – Dobinsky
The world needs you to know yourself, be yourself, love yourself and trust yourself. It is the only way to get from who you are, to who you want to be. It is the only way to figure our what you need to shift, change, release and transform to get to where you want to be. Knowing yourself isn’t easy. It is usually messy, not pretty.
It is about accepting the parts of yourself that even you are hiding from. It is stripping away the stories that you tell, that whitewash your less than stellar qualities. It is about taking down the illusions, removing the cloaks of invisibility and loving what remains. Own the place of your soul. Stand tall and take inventory. Then shift and change and transform into the best version of you. It isn’t easy, but it is priceless.
“Here’s the truth: people who get what they want tend to be the ones to make the effort to know what they want” – Martha Beck
Your personal circumstances don’t determine where you can go, they merely determine where you start.
– Nido Qubein
I think that most of us could agree that when we look out into our world today that it would be great to re-imagine the world in a better place. Many in the world are not happy with our current political situation in the world. In some places in the world, we have wars creating the worst refugee crisis ever. We have terrorist who believe that blowing up the world of others, is a way to re-imagine the world. It can be scary, it can make us angry, and it can make us depressed.
What we need is more people who specialize in the impossible.
– Theodore Roethke
On a personal level, we have personal life changes affecting us. We may have lost our job or career. Or we may have suffered the loss of a relationship or loved one through death or divorce. We may be going through a life threatening medical diagnosis. The stress of raising children, the stress of a taking care of a parent who is slowly exiting this life. So many things that we could want to re-imagine onto a blank piece of paper to make our life easier.
It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see.
– Henry David Thoreau
I believe that we can all be visionaries. Visionaries see possibilities, what could be. They make new roads, armed with nothing but their own vision. Remember the “Back To The Future” movies. When Doc Brown said, “Roads? Where we are going we don’t need roads.” I think that all of us can make changes in our lives that begin with sitting down with this blank piece of paper. We can all start re-imagining our life. But in order to do that, we need to let go of what is no longer serving us. We need to wash off the dust that is on our souls.
If you create a vision for your life, doors will open.
You may hate your job. Sunday night you might not sleep well, because you know that Monday you have to go back to work. Your stomach may be tied up in knots. You may get a Monday morning migraine, every Monday morning. But the thought of looking for a different job is scary. What if you end up in a worse working situation? What if you change jobs only to be laid off from the new job?
Don’t be afraid to fail – be afraid not to try.
That happened to me years ago. I was working for GMAC in their mortgage division in Southern California. There was a smaller mortgage company where the owner was calling me all of the time to come work for him. One day I decided to say yes, because it offered me an opportunity to get a promotion. I went to work for him and as a side project I updated and revamped his existing broker guideline manual. At the same time that I finished this (about six months) the interest rates spiked up, the values of properties went down, and California had a mini meltdown in the mortgage industry. I was laid off. And no one was hiring.
In order to carry a positive action we must develop here a positive vision.
– Dalai Lama
I thought that I had made the worst job decision ever. We ended up having to relocate up to the Seattle area where I had connections in order to find a new job. We didn’t have sufficient savings to weather all of this and I hurt our credit. We relocated our children who were all in school in the middle of the year. So many little crisis’s created because of one decision. But I started with the blank piece of paper.
You’ve got to think about big things while you’re doing small things, so that all the small things go in the right direction.
– Alvin Toffler
I re-imagined my world and created something even better. I found a new job, with a higher promotion and a higher income. We fixed our credit, we bought a new home. Our children adapted, they made new friends and ran around with all of the cousins that lived in the area. What I learned in creating that manual for that old employer is what got me the wonderful new job. It was a tool that I needed for my toolbox to continue my career growth, and I don’t think that I would have been hired for that position without it.
Your purpose explains what you are doing with your life. Your vision explains how you are living your purpose. Your goals enable you to realize your vision.
– Bob Proctor
So what does that experience tell me about what is happening in our world today? It gives me hope. Because I think that many of the long standing structures and governments in our world today – the systems that we have had in place for so long, need a transformation. They are no longer working and need to be released. We need a transformation into something better. But just like what happens to us personally, the world hasn’t been listening and making the changes in an easy way. So instead we appear to be having the breakdown to breakthrough. What we need is more of us to step into being visionaries. To re-imagine what each of these systems could be. To look at all of the structures and say, “what else is possible?”
Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside awakens.
– Carl Jung
The signpost on this photo has 4 blank boards. If you sat down right now with a blank piece of paper and wrote on it four things in your life that you are not happy with, what would they be? What would you release and how would you release it?
All tears are a releasing of resistance. Every time. No exceptions.
Are you in resistance with releasing what no longer serves you? Most of us are, even when it is painful to hold on. It is what we know. Letting go without knowing what comes next, is more fearful than holding on to the thing that creates pain in our life. While I believe wholeheartedly that the journey matters more than the destination, we need a destination or all we do is wander.
The only thing worse than being blind is having eyesight but no vision.
– Helen Keller
So create four new destinations for your life. Write down what you would change if I gave you a magic wand that you could wave and make your life different. Some things may be personal for your own life. Things you want to attract, a significant other, a new dream job, a child of your own. Some things may be more universal, like ending wars or terrorism, or medical care for all, or ending poverty or global hunger.
Create the highest, grandest vision possible for your life. Because you become what you believe.
Your soul is calling to you. Your dreams are calling to you. Your destiny is trying to unfold. Take out that blank piece of paper and put something on those four blank signposts. Start your journey to a new destination. I can attest to the fact that your life will never be the same. I took up the pen and started writing these blogs as part of my journey to a new destination. You can’t imagine how much my life has changed. The journey hasn’t been smooth, but it has been wonderful just the same.
Sight is what you eyes produce. Vision is what your heart produces. Never let what you see effect your vision.
– Shandren Reddy
Visionaries don’t just believe in impossible things, they believe those impossible things must be done. To take yourself from where you are, to someplace you have never been.
You need to associate with people that inspire you, people that challenge you to rise higher, people that make you better. Don’t waste your valuable time with people that are not adding to your growth. Your destiny is too important.
– Joel Osteen
That is the importance of community. It is why I write these blogs and share the news stories that I share. You all challenge me to be a better person. Thank you for showing up and sharing your stories and your encouragement. So let’s all go raise hell, and change the world!
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In many shamanic societies, if you came to a shaman or medicine person complaining of being depressed or dispirited, they would ask the following four questions:
When did you stop dancing?
When did you stop singing?
When did you stop being enchanted by stories?
When did you stop finding comfort in the sweet territory of silence?
When I read George Carlin’s quote I thought of the above words – because the wolves being silent at the moon, and the moon howling back – this spoke to me of a wolf being dispirited and the moon howling back those questions.
This quote by George Carlin with the wolves being silent also reminded me of a time of reflection. Being silent and going within to review the actions of the year. A time to release the baggage of the past.
And you were just like the moon, so lonely, so full of imperfections, but just like the moon, you shined in times of darkness – Unknown
Every January we think of the new year’s goals or resolutions, new dreams to grow into our lives. The things we want to accomplish or bring into our lives. In order to be ready for that contemplation, you need to create a clean slate.
A good way to do that is to examine what you set out to do last year, what happened along the way, and what you need to acknowledge and release.
Part of what can be released is all of those dreams that didn’t happen. You can mourn and release those dreams that no longer are a part of your life, because you have outgrown them.
We all have shadows within us. Dark places where you hide the things you don’t want to face. Where you hide things you are ashamed of. These things need to be brought into the light. You need to release them, so that they can become what they were meant to be. They are the broken bits of you, the dreams you abandoned because of someone or something that hurt you.
You can also release any toxic relationships that have ended or need to now end. Release the darkness.
And like the moon, she had a side of her so dark, that even the stars couldn’t shine on it; she had a side of her so cold, that even the sun couldn’t burn on it – Abigail J
I have always thought the saying is so true, “We make plans, God laughs”. This is because you tend to make plans that you feel safe about, things you know that you can do. Those kinds of plans don’t grow you or accomplish all that you are capable of doing. So, God laughs because he will take those plans, tear them apart and rebuild them into better ones. Those are the unanswered prayers, the dreams that won’t grow you towards your destiny.
Throughout the year you can look for those examples, where your small safe plan, was revised with divine humor into a much bigger plan.
Or it might be that because you didn’t do a release from last year, that this year’s plans have not even got off the ground.
Look not for the desires you have, for they are simply things that you want in your life. Look for what your soul longs for. What each heartbeat is sending to you, telling you that THIS IS WHY YOU ARE HERE!
When the wolf howls at the moon, you can hear the yearning in his voice. Give your own yearning a voice in your life.
Don’t tell me the sky’s the limit when there are footprints on the moon – Paul Brandt
So with the next full moon, you can again review, release, and restore life. Every quarter, the moon will usher in a new season. That is a perfect time to release the old, failed, or aborted dreams, and plan anew.
We dance for laughter,
we dance for tears,
we dance for madness,
we dance for fears,
we dance for hopes,
we dance for dreams,
we are the dancers, we create dreams.
One of my all-time favorite songs is “Moondance” by Van Morrison. I love the summer and autumn nights of a full moon. With a warm breeze blowing and sitting on a sandy beach, watching the moon rise over the water – there isn’t a better feeling. You can feel the magic of the night strumming your heart strings.
“The dark does not destroy the light; it defines it. It’s our fear of the dark that casts our joy into the shadows” – Brene Brown
Anytime you feel like life is giving you too much to handle, that you can’t take one more thing, that is the time to step outside of the drama and trauma. To ask yourself a very vital question. “What is this experience awakening within me?” You would not be going through this experience unless the divine knew it would open you up. It is up to you to figure out what you are being opened up to. Even the shadows have wisdom to share with you.
“Run my dear from anything that may not strengthen your precious, budding wings. Run like hell my dear, from anyone likely to put a sharp knife into the sacred tender vision of your beautiful heart” – Hafiz
When you come up against your secret deepest fears. When fear is invading your body and flaying you alive. That is when it is vital that you have the courage to be willing to fall. It is in the surrender to “I am failing”; when your heart is torn and beaten; that is how you find out how far you can rise up.
It is in the “let go and let God”, in the surrender to the divine will or destiny. That is when everything changes. Until then you are in a fight inside of, and with yourself.
Facing your fears is like walking through a crowded room with all of these shadows of people. They seem to have substance, reality. They are talking, but their whispers fade away as you try to listen. They appear to be making perfect arguments, and logical deductions. Yet they are simply shadows, and they disappear as you put one foot in front of the other and simply walk through them.
“Courage is more exhilarating than fear, and in the long run it is easier. We do not have to become heroes overnight. Just a step at a time, meeting each thing that comes up, seeing it is not as dreadful as it appeared, discovering we have the strength to stare it down” – Eleanor Roosevelt
They have no substance, because they are based on projections of what “might” happen. When you take the time to face them and shine a light upon them, they fade away. The truth is that you’re worrying about what might happen, can’t change or alter what tomorrow brings. What it does, is to make your today heart breaking. It isn’t failure that you should be afraid of. It is doing nothing and having nothing change in your life that is truly heart breaking.
There is a Swedish Proverb that says, “Worry often gives a small thing a big shadow”. Worry stops you from making the right choices. It stops you from being the brilliant, funny, entertaining “light up my life” person that you are meant to be. It bleeds away your courage to get up and take action. It drains you, instead of fueling your passion to get stuff done.
“Ask yourself if you’re certain – do you really want it? When you’re certain, desire will transform you into a racehorse, explosive at the gate. When you’re certain, details and obstacles will noticeably shrink, and crumble away. Excuses will die, ecstatic determination will strengthen your drive, and the sheer power of intent will rattle your lands and skies. Are you truly certain? Then call it out. Claim it as yours. Do what you need to do each and every day, to let it know you’re ready, you can see it, and that you’re on your way. Now is the time. Your dream patiently awaits” – Victoria Erickson
When you are courageous you spark the souls of others and ignite the bravery in them. That is why you love to read the stories of those who conquer their fears. It lights up the coals inside of you that are in danger of going out. It re-ignites you to push forward once more.
The moon calls to the tides, beckoning the waves to reach the shore and having gently kissed the sand, they return to the depths. To release what no longer serves the ocean to the shoreline. The shoreline makes space for something new that is coming in on the tides.
When I am moving towards my own passion and purpose in life, my purpose in life moves towards me. Like the ocean waves entering and leaving, my passion and purpose ebbs and flows. Courage is the foundation on which fears can be met.
“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do” – Eleanor Roosevelt
This foundation helps you to take the risk of leaping forward, even though you don’t know where you will land. It is the foundation that helps you to be compassionate with yourself when you have the rough landing that breaks you into pieces. It gives you the strength to put yourself back together again, and venture forth one more time.
You must dare to live a life that is more than just a daily existence. To understand that sometimes in order for something new to come into existence, fire is required to crack the old hard shell of your life. You can then see the potential of who, and what you are. You can see what you can accomplish, only if you keep trying.
“Becoming fearless isn’t the point. That’s impossible. It’s learning how to control your fear, and how to be free from it” – Veronica Roth, Divergent
You all have these wonderful talents, these personal geniuses that are just waiting for you to have the courage to follow them down the trail of mastery. It is in risking the fire, stepping across the threshold into the unknown, that is when you discover your true voice.
“Faith is the strength by which a shattered world, shall emerge into the light” – Helen Keller
What are your dreams, visions, your life purpose? Are you on track to bring them into reality and complete them? Have you allowed distractions to sidetrack you? Are you unclear on what your life purpose is or how to bring it into reality?
Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they’ve been given than to explore the power to they have to change it.
Impossible is not a fact. It’s an opinion.
Impossible is not a declaration. It is a dare.
Impossible is potential.
Impossible is temporary.
Impossible is nothing.
– Muhammad Ali
Every great invention and every great exploration are great, simply because at one time, it was considered impossible.
Nothing is impossible to a willing heart – John Heywood
Consider the cell phone you have in your pocket:
I could go on to describe so many things that we now take for granted, that just 100 yrs. ago would have been considered impossible. So, when you think that you are in an impossible situation, remember the words of Muhammad Ali, “impossible is just temporary”.
It is an opportunity to think outside the box and consider the possibilities instead. Impossible is not a fact., it is only an opinion.
So, stop thinking that something can’t be done and instead wonder “why not”? The only limits to your dreams are the ones that you self-impose. In fact, it is when you are in the middle of doing the impossible thing, that you suddenly find yourself.
There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure – Paulo Coelho
When I was a kid, they had a show on T.V. called “Mission Impossible”, which later became a movies series. Every assignment was impossible to do, and somehow, they came up with a way to be successful.
When you have a dream that others think is impossible, they will think that you are crazy. They will ask you why you want to try to do such a thing – it is risky, it is dangerous, it is impossible. But once the impossible thing has been done, then they want to know how you did it. What’s your secret?
So many of you have lived through unimaginable tragedies in your life. If you can look at what you are capable of being and doing, it gives you hope. You have hope that so many of the things you see wrong in your world, things that can be made right.
Nothing is impossible, unless you simply decide to live in the world that you have been given. If you decide that someone’s opinion is now a fact, then you won’t have the resources or potential to change it.
What we can or cannot do, what we consider possible or impossible is rarely a function of our true capability. It is more likely a function of our beliefs about who we are – Anthony Robbins
What gives me hope is that someone who reads this, is one of those kinds of people.
That you are one of those people who know in your heart that impossible is a dare to do something about it. That impossible is potential that you are going to harness and make something fantastic out of it. The impossible is no-thing, that it is nothing.
Together we can change the world, because for us, nothing is impossible. We can end world hunger. We can end poverty. We can end terrorism. We can end diseases and addictions that take away our loved one’s way too early in life.
What we need is more people who specialize in the impossible – Theodore Roethke
“There are two primary choices in life: To accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them” – Dr. Denis Waitley
You can choose to be affected by the world or you can choose to affect the world. This little girl is not thinking consciously about affecting someone’s life, but she is doing so nonetheless. When you are walking down life’s path it is not just coincidence, happenstance, and luck, that you experience. It is an unexplainable, magically chartered course. That is what you see when you look at this girl.
The girl in this photo isn’t seeing any limitations about what she can see, be or do. She hasn’t yet bought into the story of limitations. For her life is still simple. It can be that way for you too. You don’t have to make everything be complicated. It can be fun, instead of an adrenalin fueled drama of “guess what happened to me today?” It can instead be a joyful, “Guess what happened for me today?”
Same story, just a different way of looking at it. If you just take a moment to step back from what is happening and say silently to yourself, “I wonder what happens next?” You give your brain a chance to go into curiosity, instead of drama, and you experience a better life.
“You cannot get through a single day without having an impact on the world around you. What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make” -Jane Goodall
Every person who is, or ever has been a part of your life, changed your life, and you changed theirs. You could put labels on the changes, and call them positive and negative. The truth is that most are simply neither. The story that you tell yourself about them, is what gives them the positive or negative charge in your memory.
“If you’re not making someone else’s life better, then you are wasting your time. Your life will become better my making other people’s lives better” – Will Smith
You never know what will happen in your life. Sometimes something horrible and unforeseen happen. You go to a peace rally and a terrorist plows his car into a crowd of people and takes the life of a beautiful young woman. Her parents and friends lose someone they loved and were so proud of. At the service, they talk about what a wonderful person she was. You can see how much she meant to so many. The circumstances of her death have in fact projected her into being a hero. Someone who stood up for others. Someone who cared about others, and had a true moral code she lived by. That is how it plays out in so many peoples lives. We stand up and talk about them after they are gone.
From what you hear and read about this young woman, she fits this quote because her death is certainly waking up humanity:
“If you want to awaken all humanity, then awaken all of yourself. If you want to eliminate the suffering in the world, then eliminate all that is dark and negative in yourself. Truly, the greatest gift you have to give is that of your own self transformation” – Lao Tzu
But how much do we communicate about the important things to our friends and family while they are here? My Uncle Paul got a thank you post on his Facebook page from someone that was best friends with his son when they were growing up. It reminded me of how we all have memories of someone special in our lives that affected us in such a way, that they changed how we saw the world,. They changed who we chose to be in the world by their actions. Most of the time we never know how we affected someone, because they don’t think to express it.
Most of the time, our family finds out about it at our funeral, when they feel moved to talk about what we meant to them. This post reminded me of how important it is to say these things to people while they are still alive to hear it.
I edited it slightly, but here is the post. “Hello Paul, hope things are going well for you. I am sending you this note because I wanted you to know that I think of you often. I have never shared this with anyone before, but I have always considered you as my second father. I have tried to model myself after special traits from both my real father and from you.. One of your many special traits that I recognized early on was your very high degree of patience. One example that I think about often, is watching you make constant repairs to your hay bailer. When that damn thing broke you always were ready to fix it with huge degrees of patience, no cussing and no throwing of wrenches. Just fix it, even if the project took all day. And fix it you would. That has to be another one of your special traits, you seemed to be able to do anything and fix anything with confidence. You played a huge role in developing my love for the outdoors. So thank-you for that important role.”
He does a wonderful job of describing my uncle. He is a mechanical wizard. He is very methodical and I don’t remember him ever losing his patience with us, and we certainly did things as young kids that would have tried it.
What I really loved about this heartfelt expression is that it was just my Uncle being his authentic self that impacted this young man. It wasn’t some heroic act, or awesome talent, it was how he handled himself on a daily basis as he worked on his farm. It was how he made this young man feel.
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” – Dr. Maya Angelou
The lesson here is to be your authentic self. To live on purpose in everything you do in your daily life. To pursue what sets your soul on fire. But how do you go about chasing those dreams you have? Because when you are doing that, you are living a truly magical life. An inspirational life. A life that truly impacts and changes not only those you know, but the millions of people around the world you don’t know around the world. Why? Because living your life on purpose fulfills your God given destiny.
“Life is a mirror and will reflect back to the thinker what he thinks into it” – Ernest Holmes
This is a great time to reflect back on what transpired for the past few months of your life. What happened to the goals or resolutions that you set for the year? Did you achieve them? Did you give up on them? Did you rise up or fall down?
If you look at your reflection in the water, you see the outer surface of you, looking back at you. But if you put your hand through the reflection, you can see what lies beneath.
The question I always ask myself is “why am I doing this to myself? How can I do better?”
It’s in the looking at what’s beneath the fears of self-sabotage that you can see what is holding you back. Then you can pierce the illusion(s) to find the real truth.
“When someone tells you it can’t be done, it’s more a reflection of their limitations, not yours” – Thegoodquote
Looking back helps you to see what you want to bring into your life.
It is not the things that happened in your life that define you, but how you coped and adjusted through them, that made you who you are today.
“You can be stunned, awakened, and changed by what happens to you, but choose to grow from it, and refuse to be reduced by it”– Unknown
2022 is a year for deep self-reflection. The past few months new things have been brought up from the depths beneath the surface and released. Wars, a global pandemic, Black Lives Matter, Police brutality, a personal loss of income, stay at home orders, teaching children from home, working from home, and on and on.
“Self reflection is a humbling process. It’s essential to find out why you think, say, and do certain things . . . then better yourself” – Sonya Teclai
You are working on being a better person, and that includes your body, mind and soul. So the reflection that you see right now, is showing you who you were. So reflect back to it, who you want to be.
“The ability to honestly and quietly reflect on one’s life is one of the most powerful tools for personal growth” – Richard Carlson
I saw a photo years ago of Carrie Fischer and Harrison Ford. The article asked why it was ok for Harrison Ford to have aged, but not ok for Carrie Fischer – they were talking about 40 years ago when they filmed the first Star Wars movie to the start of the new Star Wars movie series how much she had aged. It is really sad that someone feel the need to say negative things about how someone looks. Harrison Ford had aged too, but no one was commenting about that.
Speaking in this way didn’t help anyone. I think Carrie Fischer was an amazing woman, who had her struggles, just like all of us. She was courageous because she did it in the public eye, and said what she thought. The way she was upfront about mental illness puts her in the category of being a hero in my book.
“When I loved myself enough, I began leaving whatever wasn’t healthy. This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs and habits – anything that kept me small. My judgment called it disloyal. Now I see it as self-loving” – Kim McMillen
It means that you can say this to your own reflection: “I love you” means that I accept you for the person that you are, and that I do not wish to change you into someone else. It means that I will love you and stand by you even through the worst of times. It means loving you even when you’re in a bad mood, or too tired to do the things I want to do. It means loving you when you’re down, not just when you’re fun to be with.
“I love you, means that I know your deepest secrets and do not judge you for them” – Jonathan Safran Foer
So what do I do when I see someone extremely gorgeous? I stare, I smile, and when I get tired of holding up the mirror, I put it down. 🙂