It all begins and ends in your mind. What you give power to, has power over you, if you allow it.
So how do you work with your mind to change your story? You acknowledge that you are where you are in your story because of how you did, or did not use your power. You realize that while you can’t control every challenge that happens in your life, you can control your response to it. That is where your power to control your story originates – how you respond.
Allowing people inside your life is a beautiful thing. Letting go of people who drain your spirit is another beautiful thing you can do for your life. The key to being happy is knowing you have the power to choose what to accept and what to let go.
First step is to silence the mind. The subconscious mind is so busy trying to distract us from our real story. It wants us to get lost in the stories of who our parents said we were. Of who our friends and relatives expect us to be. But our true story is waiting in our hearts to be re-discovered. To be released from the cage that we put it in when we were small children.
Meditation is a great way to learn to silence the mind. Visualization is another great way to give the mind something structured to do, so that it will let our heart and soul communicate with us. For me, my heart and soul communicates best in my dreams. Many of my poems and best blog posts come from ideas in my dreams.
The soul usually knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind.
Second step is to let go of trying to control things that you have no control over. To let go of what you can’t change. Which usually means that we are trying to control the behavior of someone else. Or control things over which we have no power in the first place.
In our life story we sometimes have to climb a high mountain pass. We are supposed to travel up over the pass and back down the other side. As we follow our road over the mountain, we may find the road has been washed out. We might find the road has had a rock or mud slide. Maybe a bridge is out, or there is a raging forest fire. We might have to detour around whatever the roadblock is. That doesn’t mean that we drag all of those rocks, mud, broken bridges or burning bushes with us, as we go down the other side of the mountain. We leave that roadblock on the road. It is not our business to fix the road. It is not our burden to control the journey and demand that the road be repaired before we continue across the mountain. Our business is to simply travel to our destination by any means possible. It is in the traveling that we learn, change, adapt and transform.
One of the happiest moments in life is when you find the courage to let go of what you can’t change.
Third step is to really, truly, believe from the bottom of your soul, that you are unique, no one in the entire universe is like you, and that is how it is supposed to be. Stop trying to fit in a mold. Stop trying to be Martha Stewart in the home, and Oprah at work, and Marilyn Monroe in the bedroom, all rolled up into one amazing super woman. Don’t try to make yourself live out someone else’s story. Live your own.
You weren’t made to replicate, obey or stand in the shadow of another person. You were made to stand in your own power and find the truth in your soul..
Fourth Step is to realize that while we all need a helping hand once in a while, nothing will destroy our power to live our own story faster than having the habit of depending on others. Just like a tree that grows in the forest, we must grow deep roots to support our upward growth. If we start leaning on the trees that we are planted by, when the storm comes into our life our roots will not support us and we will crash to the ground. The unfortunate thing about our crash is how we damage those next to us as we fall. We must learn to stand up alone and be an original.
Nothing else so destroys the power to stand alone as the habit of leaning upon others. If you lean, you will never be strong or original. Stand alone or bury your ambition to be somebody in the world.
– Orison Swett Marden
Fifth Step has to do with your relationship with yourself. Really understanding what real self love and self trust is all about. Not having these vital areas in balance in your life is what leads to most of our broken, damaged relationships – with friends, with family, with our spouse, with our co-workers at our job, It enters into how people treat us, how we communicate our needs, wants and desires, and how we are perceived in the world.
The relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.
– Jane Travis
Sixth Step is your relationship to others and the world. You can’t make everyone happy and it isn’t your job to do so. There are always going to be people who say that you are “not enough” – not good enough, not pretty enough, not rich enough . . . and so on. Those judgments are on them. They want to feel better by having their own problems being pushed off on to you. It is not your job to judge them back. To think that you have to show others what kind of “bad” people they are. Their true colors will come out without your help or assistance. Don’t blame others for your life, and don’t accept the blame for how they are living their own life.
Give. But don’t allow yourself to be used.
Love. But don’t allow your heart to be abused.
Trust. but don’t be naïve.
Listen. But don’t lose your own voice.
– thisislovelifequotes. net
There are more steps, breadcrumbs that you find along your journey. It all begins with a simple decision. Is this DAY ONE, or is this ONE DAY? You decide. What’s your story?
You tell me to quiet down cause my opinions make me less beautiful. But I was not made with a fire in my belly so I could be put out. I was not made with a lightness in my tongue so I could be easy to swallow. I was made heavy – half blade and half silk. Difficult to forget but not easy for the mind to follow.
– Rupi Kaur
Life gives us a lot of experiences. They run the whole emotional scale. We fall from ecstatic joy to pain that leaves us whimpering in the corner, wishing that death would come and take us away from it. Life gives us the experience of Heaven, Hell and every realm between. Like clay we are formed and molded by our life experiences. Like clay we go through the fire. But we have a choice about what that fire does to us. We can choose to become rigid, brittle and defined by those fires, so that everyone we meet hears about our horrific life. Or, we can choose to become refined by the fire, tempered by it and made stronger.
Some women fear the fire, some women simply become it . . .
– r.h. sin
Why would we fear the fire? Because when we are refined by the fire, it exposes us. We see the ugly parts of us, and we have to acknowledge that they are part of us. We can’t deny it, we can’t make it be less than it is, we can’t say it doesn’t exist, and that somehow that ugly bit of us is actually someone else’s fault. We can’t say I lost my temper and it was that persons fault or that they deserved us to go nuclear on them. The fire shines the light on us, and if we stand up in that light and acknowledge who we are, then we have the opportunity to transform it. We can release the negativity and shift it and change it into something better.
She wasn’t looking for a knight, she was looking for a sword.
We all have this mix of fairy tale dreams where we want someone to take care of us, and yet at the same time we fiercely do not want someone to fix us. We are not looking to be fixed. We are not broken and damaged and needing to be rescued. That is judging our experience when you don’t know our whole story. That is making assumptions of what our dreams are made up of. That is not understanding what our destiny is preparing us for. We don’t need a hero, we are one. What we need is a sword to cut out of us all of the parts that do not serve us, and do not belong as part of us.
Life is tough, my darling, but so are you.
– Stephanie Bennett Henry
Promise yourself that you can and will do better. Hold yourself to not looking back. Learn from the past but don’t live there. Leave the baggage at the airport and travel lightly through life. Anything that shattered you wasn’t meant for you. We have this habit sometimes of holding on to something that doesn’t serve us. We stay in the job, where we are experiencing bullying, where we are put down because we believe in some way it is true. We stay in a relationship that burns our soul, sacrificing ourselves because they say they love us even when their actions tell us it is a lie. Don’t continue to dance on the broken glass, thinking that we can somehow fix it. It will just slice our souls and shred our spirits.
You can’t let other people tell you who you are. You have to decide that for yourself.
At some point we have to change the situation. Instead of being battered by the storm, we have to become the storm. In order to thrive we have to become fearless in the pursuit of what sets our soul on fire. We have to put on our life jacket and abandon the sinking ship, with the knowledge that we will be okay. It might not be today or tomorrow, but the storm will always play itself out. The sun will shine again. You are valuable, you are a Goddess and you must firmly believe that with all of your heart and soul.
Her soul is fierce
her heart is brave
her mind is strong.
– r.h. Sin
She was powerful, not because she wasn’t scared but because she went on so strongly, despite the fear.
This kind of power comes from the place of not needing anyone to validate who we are. To get to that space, we have gone through the refining fires. We have exposed our vulnerable places, our ugly thoughts and actions. We have brought the light to all of the dark corners of our heart. When you have faced who you really are without the masks, without the excuses and justifications, fear gets burnt out of us. Fear is a choice, and we can choose not to live at its address any longer.
We need women who are so strong they can be gentle. so educated they can be humble, so fierce they can be compassionate, so passionate they can be rational and so disciplined they can be free
– Kavita Ramdas
When we accept who we are, we lose false pride. When we own “this is who I am” fear loses its grip on us. We are ready. We are willing. It is time to go out and fight for our dreams. We no longer feel that we are obligated to prove our worth to anyone, and if they are demanding that we do so, we just walk away.
Once upon a time you were a little girl with big dreams that you promised you’d make real one day. Don’t disappoint yourself.
The winds scattered my leaves but my roots remained firm. They tried to wound me, but I grew stronger in the broken places. I wondered if I would survive, but then I saw a sparkle . . . My tiara was a little tangled perhaps but it never fell off after all.
– Jane Lee Logan
When we were children we touched dragonflies and reached for the stars. We talked to the moon and danced through the forest with the fairies. We saw wonder and believed in happy endings. What we may not have realized is that the happy ending, was just that moment in time. That there was more to the story. The heroes journey doesn’t end. There are always more challenges, more growth. Change, transformation, life continues ever onward. The end is never really the end.
Love your whole story even if it hasn’t been the perfect fairy tale.
– Melanie Moushigian Kouloruis
In the ups and downs of life, our story goes by the meaning we put to it. How many times have you heard of someone being laid off or fired? They are anxious, panicked, and feel like the world has ended. But at some point, they start their own business, or get hired at a new company and the next thing you hear is how losing that job was the best thing that ever happened. What changed? The meaning they were putting to their own story.
We long for a fairytales in a world full of nightmares.
It really is about the meaning that you give to what is currently happening in your life. We seem to feel that life should be all roses, and forget that the roses also have thorns. Is it a rosebush or a thornbush? Look at the fairy tales themselves. Peter Pan had Captain Hook, pirates and the Crocodile. Snow White had the Evil Queen and her minions. Ariel had her father, the Sea Witch. There are always obstacles, failures, dragons and demons. They help us to grow by overcoming them.
If I’m honest I have to tell you I still read fairy tales and I like them best of all.
– Audrey Hepburn
From the Genie in the bottle, we learned to form our wishes with a lot of thought and detail, because otherwise they will turn on us. We find helpers along the way. We fight through our fears. We become less judgmental and more compassionate as we see how hard life can be. We become better people. The reason why there is a happy ending, is that the characters did not give up.
Love is overcoming obstacles, facing each challenge with integrity. Love is difficult to define and it begins with learning to truly love ourselves. Love is realizing that the world or life, doesn’t just happen to us, it happens because of us. And every single challenge, obstacle, and opportunity that happens is worth it. It is worth it because when you believe in “YOU”, you can make anything happen.
You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.
– C.S. Lewis
I loved the Lewis Carroll line, “the best gift you could give her was a lifetime of adventures” because it comes back to the meaning that we give to what is happening in our lives. If you look at this as a lifetime of adventures, you can be Princess Lea, or Indiana Jones. If you look at the movies they played in, they had a lot of bad things happen. They lost loved ones, lost homes, failed in epic battles. But they also believed that in the end, good wins. And if your “good” isn’t doing so well right now, then it isn’t the end. You are still in the middle of your adventure. Or maybe you’re at the scene right before the end, where everything is dark and tragic and stacked up against you so high, there is no way you can win. But if you keep moving forward, no matter how hard that step by step is, you are about to get your second wind and turn it all around.
All our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them.
– Walt Disney
We need both courage and imagination to live the life we dream of. I am a huge Princess Bride fan. This reminds me of two scenes in the movie – one is when Wesley is on the bed. He is still not fully recovered from being mostly dead. He can hardly move, and the prince comes in to finish him off. Wesley challenges him “to the pain” and describes in great horrific detail what will happen to him should they fight. The prince ends up giving up without a fight. The whole time Wesley was completely vulnerable, but he didn’t just give up. Using his creative imagination he bluffed his way into victory from a place of complete defeat. The other scene is when Inigo Montoya finds the six fingered man and starts fighting him. At one point it appears that he is going to die and fail to avenge his father. But then he gets that second wind and defeats him. Both stories had that climax when it seemed all was dark and failure was imminent. But they kept going, one using a bluff, and one using the years of training and preparation to win the battle.
I’m a romantic and I kinda believed in this fairy tale. And in some ways I think that’s always been to my advantage, because if you can believe in something great, you can achieve something great.
– Katy Perry
Every night you dream. In your dreams about your life are these seeds of greatness. Your heart and soul speak to you in dreams. They put a little soil around those seeds of greatness. They water them. They weed out of your life the things that don’t belong. They weed out the things that are holding you back. But at the end of the day, it is up to you to take those small plants and put them out into the world to grow into what they are supposed to be. We see it happen all around us everyday. People using their imagination and technology are out there creating products, businesses, services. They are giving back to their community. They are making a difference in the world, by doing what others say can’t be done. Then there are the ones who never transplant their dreams into the world, but hold them tightly in the dark spaces of their souls. They are so afraid of the dream, that they stunt it into a characticture of what it might have been.
A dream is a wish your heart makes.
Remember Mary Poppins – “Anything can happen if you let it.” Just because you lose a shoe at midnight, it doesn’t mean that you walk home barefoot. Maybe it means a new pair of dancing shoes! And who doesn’t want a new pair of shoes?
Nothing is as important as passion. No matter what you want to do with your life, be passionate.
– Jon Bon Jovi
Passion is always calling to us. It pokes at us in our dreams. It shows up in the music we listen to, the movies we watch, the books we read. We see it everywhere and we unconsciously sweep it under the rug. We don’t have time for it right now. We have jobs to go to, bills to pay, children to raise. It becomes our someday mantra. Someday I will write poetry. Someday I will write the music that I hear in my head. Someday I will write down the story I have been telling my children and draw out the illustrations. Someday I will take that class at the local community college and learn more about that profession that is calling to me. We will live the life of our dreams someday. Someday we will listen to our hearts calling. Someday we will live it, breathe it, begin it.
Passion is living uncomfortably on purpose.
It is choosing to stay up late and wake up early.
It is choosing to forego certain luxuries, and sometimes even some necessities.
It is choosing to look foolish, even when you care what others think.
It is asking for advice and choosing not to take it.
It is being afraid and anxious, but going out of your comfort zone anyway.
Even though all of our “reasons” for not following our passion seem to be logical and reasonable, they are in fact killing your soul. It has this intense yearning to reach out and grow, and we are burying it and telling it we will attend to it later. Your time is limited. The cemetery is filled with people who died with their book, their music, their unexplored talents never allowed to grow into the marvelous creations that they could have been. My grandmother made the worlds best carrot cake. Her frosting was with cream cheese, but it was different than any frosting I have ever tasted. It wasn’t too sweet, which is where for my taste buds most cakes are ruined. It was a secret recipe and one day she had a heart attack and died and no one ever knew what her secret recipe was. Today decide to share your secret recipes. Today choose to live uncomfortably on purpose. Choose to look foolish and walk away from the comfortable life and let the fires of your passion direct you., Today choose to take the first step outside of your comfort zone,.
Always go with your passions. Never ask yourself if it is realistic or not.
– Deepak Chopra
When you step outside of that comfort zone, it is really scary. Others will say, “have you gone crazy?” But secretly in their hearts they are jealous. As they watch you take not only the first step, but step after step, what you are doing is giving them permission to gather up their own courage and take their own first step. Like when we try to do anything that is new, there will be failures. What is so interesting when you look backwards and review your journey, each of those failures are when you grew the most. For me, it has been learning from a self sabotage failure, expand my comfort zone, live in that space for a while, then another push out of the comfort zone, another failure, grow from the experience and live in the new comfort zone for a while and do it all again. Your own journey will show you a pattern. Each time we examine the pattern, we can tweak it to change the trajectory to be less failures, or less time in the new comfort zone, or add in anything that we think is missing from the process. The critical thing is just like following the trail of breadcrumbs that we keep following to where our passion is leading us.
You can’t do passion halfway. Living your passion means you’re all in. You trust your heart and trust your gut wherever that takes you.
– Joe Plummer
Too many people live an unfulfilled life. They have a daily existence of doing, but they are not really being. They wake up, go to a job that doesn’t fulfill them, come home and watch TV or take care of their families needs, but at no time is there time to live the life they dream about in their hearts. Don’t settle. Don’t just live in the rut and decorate it, thinking that will make it more bearable. We think that we are making others happy by denying ourselves. But you living a half lived life doesn’t benefit anyone. You are in fact robbing your family of knowing and loving who you really are. You are stealing from the world what gifts you brought to the world. You are telling your God, thanks for the seeds of genius that you planted in me, but I am not going to use them.
Respond to every call that excites your spirit.
Instead be scared of living a life without passion directing it. Be scared of living an unfulfilled life. Be scared of being dead, while you are still alive. Don’t put off your dreams one more day. Life is really pretty simple. Stop make it more difficult than it is. Start doing things that you love. Eat every last bite. Go our and start creating. Live your dreams out loud. Wear your passion in dramatic color.
Passion, it lies in all of us, sleeping . . . waiting . . . and though unwanted . . . unbidden . . . it will stir . . . open it’s jaws and howl. It speaks to us . . . guides us . . . passion rules us all, and we obey. What other choice do we have? Passion is the source of our finest moments. The joy of love . . . the clarity of hatred . . and the ecstasy of grief. It hurts sometimes more than we can bear. If you could live without passion maybe we’d know some kind of peace . . . but we would be hollow . . . empty rooms shuttered and dark. Without passion we’d be truly dead.
– Josh Whedon
Can you imagine this conversation between two people looking out over the water and seeing a hand reach up out of the water?
Can’t you see she is drowning?
She’s just doing that for attention.
Someone should help her.
If we acknowledge her, then she’ll never stop.
I think she is in danger.
She’s just feeling sorry for herself.
It’s too late now. She is gone.
Why didn’t she ask for help?
This conversation plays out in all of our lives at some time. For me it was my daughter was close to two years old,. She wasn’t talking. Literally no words. She had sounds, so she wasn’t mute. She just didn’t say mama or dada or anything. I had taken her to doctors and they determined that physically there was nothing wrong. She could hear fine. She understood what you were saying, she just couldn’t communicate back. So they said I should force her to talk. That she wasn’t talking because I gave her want she was trying to ask for. They said, “When she was indicating that she wanted something, don’t give it to her unless she says the word”. So we had a painful few months of following the doctors directions. Then I took her back and demanded to see some specialist. This issue was not that she didn’t want to say the words, the issue was that something wasn’t connecting correctly.
So we saw the specialist, and they couldn’t figure out anything that was wrong. So they told us to put her in daycare. They felt she wasn’t around enough children. Even though she had an older brother, cousins and friends her age from church – that wasn’t sufficient. So we put her in daycare, Another bad decision as it made her stand out. When they were sharing in circle time and she couldn’t verbalize her sounds into real words, she became even more withdrawn. So again, back to the doctors. Finally they authorized speech therapy., The area we lived in had a school she attended for four hours a day. They had a two to one ratio of speech therapist teachers who worked with her and the other children, who all had some sort of speech disability. Within 6 months she had a 100 word vocabulary and she was finally able to express herself. It took me one whole year to get her the help she needed.
I felt like I was having that conversation with those doctors, that I typed above I knew she had a problem and they were not listening or helping. They were just making things worse. Fortunately I kept after them until she got the help she needed. She had delayed speech, and it was an inherited condition. I discovered later that one of my grandfathers daughters from his first marriage had the same thing happen with one of her grandchildren. And my daughter had the same thing happen with a couple of her own children. It was not that she was doing it for attention. It was not that trying to help her get what she wanted but couldn’t tell us, was just encouraging bad behavior. She was asking for help.
Ships don’t sink because of the water around them; ships sink because of the water that gets in them. Don’t let what’s happening around you get inside you and weigh you down.
Have you ever been the person asking for help? Did it feel like people were watching and talking, but no one could hear you through the water? This happened to me when I was 28 years old. I had been diagnosed with Glaucoma. They didn’t want to do surgery because I was so young. A lot of times when you are young and healthy, when they do laser surgery on your eyes, your eyes think that the surgery is a problem and “repair” the surgery back to what it thinks is the normal way for the eye to be. So we were trying out three different drugs. The first on didn’t work at all. The second one had a side effect of making me suicidal. I could tell it was making me depressed and giving me dark thoughts. I was struggling with it, but it was making me afraid to talk about it. I finally was able to tell the doctor what was happening and he put me on the third drug. Due to different side effects I ended up doing the surgery.
I was talking to my husband about the second drug and asking him if he couldn’t see what was happening. He said, that he could see it, but was so afraid of putting me over the edge I was balanced on that he did nothing. We talked about it for some time. I explained, that what that did was to make me feel like he didn’t care. That even if what he said or did was not the perfect thing, at least I would have known that he was trying, that he cared. Instead I felt abandoned and that he didn’t care about me. Like the woman in the story, I felt like I was reaching for help and he was just watching me drown.
We all have bad days. We all witness others having bad days. Sometimes those bad days turns into weeks and months and years. We are crying out for help. We feel abandoned. We all watch it happening to someone we know or love, and we don’t know what to do. So we do nothing, or we get bad advice from experts and do the wrong thing. What we need to do is go to divine source. The divine source speaks to us in our hearts. When we reach out to others from that space, even if what we do is not the perfect thing to do, they see that we are trying from a space of love and compassion. Not from a space of judgment, or making someone be wrong.
To have faith is to trust yourself to the water. When you swim you don’t grab hold of the water, because if you do, you will sink and drown. Instead you relax, and float.
– Alan Watts
We need to realize when we are drowning and ask for help. We need seek deep within to find what it is that is currently trying to be exposed and released from our life. A wrong belief that is holding us hostage. A drug or alcohol addiction. A relationship that is killing us, but we won’t let go of. That we are trying to save someone, who is just taking us down with them. When we try to save broken people, we need to take care that we don’t cut ourselves on their broken pieces. So many patterns, addictions, issues of self sabotage. They need to be released so that we can again relax and float. Life sometimes takes us to the edge, but it is always within our control, it is our choice to be a victim, or we can decide that this life can and will be better and we are a thriver.
Life sometimes takes you into troubled waters not to drown you but to cleanse you.
So when we find ourselves in deep water. Relax and float. Reach out for help, but always remember it really comes down to being our own hero. No one else can fix us, and we can fix anyone else. It is always an inside job.
In the midst of movement and chaos, keep stillness inside of you.
– Deepak Chopra
Chaos is actually a good sign. It tells you that you are about to have a breakthrough. I love this photo – we literally have the elephant in the room. It is being ignored and creating chaos. Chairs and tables are being destroyed, dishes crashing to the floor, and she is sitting there like “what?” Chaos is one of the keys that tells us things are about to change. We have the ability to choose in this situation. We can continue to ignore the “elephant in the room” or we can acknowledge it and start to deal proactively with the changes happening in our life.
All great changes are preceded by chaos.
All of the great inventions have come from a place of chaos. When you think outside of the box, it is in a place of chaos. All of the possibilities are buzzing around your head, all trying desperately to get your attention. It is being willing to be told you are stupid and foolish to think that you can be an agent of change. A chaos agent. Someone who stirs things up. Look at the disruptors currently bringing change in our world. 3D printing is on the brink of being able to create organs that can be used to transplant and save lives. They are creating car parts, hearing aids, and implants.
Madness is somewhere between chaos and having a dream.
– R.M. Drake
Soon every piece of personal information, drivers license, credit cards, bank accounts, your id card for work will all be digital and take just your thumb print or a scan of a chip located within your body. Virtual reality will soon impact with endless possibilities beyond gaming. Our houses will soon be totally controlled with the “internet of everything”. More and more of everyday life will become fully automated, such as self driving cars. Think of every science fiction movie or book you have read and we are quickly approaching the implementation of that fantasy becoming our reality.
The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join in the dance.
– Alan W Watts
When life is crazy and the chaos is driving us mad – faith in the divine plan gives us an anchor. It keeps us steady in the raging storm, so that when the storm has passed, we can pick up the pieces of our life and carry on. It gives us a vision to hold on to that can keep us calm in the midst of the insanity. And if we are courageous, we can let go of the expectations of how our life should be and see instead how our life could be. When you let go of the expectations, you make space for something better.
Never mind your ideas of how things should look, your expectations of how things must be. Life will scramble all of that into an unrecognizable chaos. The difficulty, the joy, the privilege is in being undone and then creatively reshaping yourself into a form you never imagined could be so beautiful.
– Amy Larsen
When the chaos creates frustration, it is because we have become confused. A lack of clairity creates the frustration. It is a poisonous emotion, stopping us from achieving our dreams. We need to step out of this negative emotion, out of the darkness. Release the frustration and get back into curiosity about what is happening. Curiosity about what old belief we have outgrown that is expressing itself thorugh the frustration. And get curious about what new something is being born into our life.
Life has dark moments and it is out of our darkness that we often find our greatest beauties and strengths.
– Bryant McGill
Chaos is only a problem when we get stuck in it. If in every place we go, the elephant is in the room wrecking all of the furniture, then we need to seriously examine our life. That kind of chaos is not a predictor of change, but rather an avoidance of making changes. Chaos is a bridge to take us from where we currently are in our life, to where we are seeking to go. A bridge makes the connection from one side ( where we are ) to the other side ( where we want to be ). You use it to travel across the river or lake, or across the ravine. You don’t park on the bridge and live the rest of your life there, afraid to go forwards or backwards. It is our self-identifying with the chaos, as though that is who we are, that will keep us in the darkness. While life and chaos will give us those dark moments, it is not who we are.
Change is growth. It is living life. It is about recognizing and being conscious of what the journey is teaching us about ourselves. Becoming conscious, becoming self aware. It is recognizing the elephant is in the room. Is it being self destructive and needing to be addressed? Or is it just sitting there waiting to be called into action?
Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.
– Carol Burnett
This photo so clearly explains why other people don’t get the transformations that we are being called to make in our lives. There are two different levels of perception here. And each person can only see their own level of perception. Both are true. I can explain what I see with twenty thousand words, and if your level of perception is contained in the world she is pulling away, dark depressing and dreary, you will never see the sunshine that I do.
Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands.
– Clint Eastwood
The better we know ourselves the better we can embrace change. Self knowledge is vital, because our subconscious minds run these programs behind the scenes. They like things exactly the way they are. They will try to keep us in our comfort zone. We need to let go of the old programs.
One of the most courageous decisions you’ll ever make is to finally let go of what is hurting your heart and soul.
– Brigitte Nicole
Most of the fears that we have are fears of the unknown. Those fears are negative programing. They will keep you stuck in the shadows, in the dark. They keep us from perceiving what else is possible. I know that for myself when I have a medical issue, waiting for test results is the worst. My mind goes crazy thinking of all of the worst case scenarios. I am definitely in a dark place with wild imagining of brain tumors, cancer, a failing organ, and so on.
The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.
But once I have a diagnosis, it all changes. Now I am researching and figuring out how to cure the issue and become healthy again. Now I have something tangible to work towards. The unknown has been removed and that fear is dissolved. I am free again to begin making positive changes for my health and my life.
May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears.
– Nelson Mandela
That doesn’t mean that fear doesn’t show up again. It does. But if I am being honest with myself, I can identify the unknown piece that is creating the fear and remove the unknown piece with new knowledge.
If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we aren’t really living.
– Gail Sheehy
How do I know when fear of the unknown is showing up in my life? For most of us it has shown up whenever we find ourselves avoiding something that needs to be done, or find that our progress towards a dream being slowed down. We begin to lose passion and fire towards the dream. We begin to feel like we are wading through the mud instead of flowing down the stream.
I just wanna go on more adventures. Be around good energy. Connect with people. Learn new things. Grow.
Whenever these feelings start to exist, it is time to get quiet in our minds. Then sit quietly and ask our inner knower what am I not seeing? What is it that is slowing me down or sidetracking me? What research can I do to bring light to this area?
I am on the hunt for who I’ve not yet become.
Once we identify the fear, then sit with it a while longer. See what lies beneath that fear. I can guarantee that there is always another layer. Fears tend to travel in packs like wild dogs. Each dog having its own fear. Once you think you have given each dog a name, now you can make it a tamer dog by addressing its own particular fear.
Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.
– Jim Rohn
You will know if you are successful because you will feel the energy and passion return to your dream. All of a sudden you will feel flow happening and that progress is being made. It is like a hose that has a kink in it. At first we are not getting any water pressure. But once we find the kink and straighten it out water comes pouring out at full force.
Change can be beautiful when we are brave enough to evolve with it, and change can be brutal when we fearfully resist.
– Bryant McGill
The key is to be paying attention to what is happening in your life. It is so easy to get lost and sidetracked. It is so easy for the fears so sneak up on you and gain control. It is also easy to stop and listen to your heart and soul for guidance.
It doesn’t matter how slowly you go, as long as you do not stop.
It takes practice to check in with yourself on a regular basis. Meditation and journaling are two practices that help us to keep track of where we are, and wake us up if we start to fall asleep.
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When we are no longer able to change a situation – we are challenged to change ourselves.
– Viktor Frankl
I know how much these writings help me to catch myself when I start to get sidetracked. They help me bring my energy back up into the higher vibrations which is such a vital part of bringing my dreams into reality. They remind me of what I have transformed in my past and give me courage that I can transform what is in front of me now. Truly, the better we know ourselves, the better we can embrace what is now changing in our lives.
Today I am discovering who I am. Today I am becoming my person, worthy of developing all of me. Today I am beginning to know that I am okay the way I am.
– Ruth Fishel
Discovering who we are requires that we go on a journey. We can’t become who we are trying to become by remaining where we are, or what we are. This journey begins with curiosity. Asking the hard questions of ourselves. Where am I going? What am I learning from what I read, what I listen to, what I am watching on TV? What do those I associate with have me thinking about? Are the answers to these questions what I want my life to be about? It isn’t chance that helps me to become what I am seeking. It is making transformational life changes that does that.
If we are always arriving and departing, it is also true that we are eternally anchored. One’s destination is never a place, but rather a new way of looking at things.
– Henry Miller
When we start out on this journey of self discovery, we think that if we can just learn enough, take in enough knowledge that we will develop the wisdom to become the person we want to be. It is the natural first step, and many of us get lost in this first step. We do a lot of work, and it just doesn’t seem like we are making any progress. We keep departing, but it doesn’t feel like we are ever arriving. There is this gap. We keep stuffing it with creative ideas, and plans, and dreams – but it doesn’t seem like we are creating anything that truly bridges that gap. I love the word GAP – because it is Gods Area of Preparation. That is why it doesn’t seem like the bridge is ever getting completed. Don’t give up. Keeping fighting to reach the other side of the gap.
I love the person I’ve become, because I fought to become her.
– Kaci Diane
I remember the true story of an Olympic Athlete. She went to a sports camp as a child and demonstrated some talent with volleyball. The coach told her that if she worked hard, it would give her a scholarship to college. So she worked hard and when it came time, she wrote to the colleges with a good volleyball program and asked them to come see her play. She got her teachers to write letters about her and was successful in getting a full ride to college. Her senior year in college she was watching the Olympic Games and decided to chase the dream of being in the Olympics. So again, she wrote letters to come see her play and got her professors to write letters and was successful in getting into the tryouts. She spent a week in tryouts and worked hard, and even though she felt the other players were better she made it to the team. The team lived and worked in Southern California for 4 years to the next Olympic Games. During that time she realized that if she was going to be on the team that played in the games, she needed to tear her game down and rebuild it. Now think about this – she was good enough to get a full ride into college. In college she was All American. She tried out and was accepted on the Olympic Team. Obviously she was talented and skilled. But she knew that she could be more, so she fought to be more.
I always did something I was a little not ready to do. I think that’s how you grow. When there’s that moment of “wow, I’m not really sure I can do this” and you push through those moments, that’s when you have a breakthrough.
– Marissa Meyer
So when we are having a bad day, week, month or year – that is something to remember. Sometimes we need to tear ourselves back down to the foundations of who we are, and rebuild. Take all of the lessons that we have learned in this life, all of the crazy experiences, hurts, blessings in disguise and know that none of it was a mistake. Find positive ways to be in the world. Make a difference, no matter how small it feels. We can be the change we want to see in our world. Be open to the challenge of change. Face our fears of not being enough, not knowing enough, and do the things we know need to be done, even if it terrifies us. Love who and what you are, and who you are becoming. Trust that you have within you everything that you need to do so. Believe in yourself. Wish upon the stars and then put faith in that wish coming true.
Do not confuse the word “belief” with the word “wish”. The two are not the same . . . the element of faith is the only sure power by which a wish may be translated into a belief, and a belief into a reality.
– Napoleon Hill
It can be really scary, to keep going when we are in the stage of moving mountains. We see the pain, the heartache, the mistakes that we are making along the way. We judge ourselves, we cower in fear and wish it would all just go away and leave us here in the middle of the floor, just a shapeless puddle of confusion and fears. But what makes us powerful, is when we get up, shake off the confusion, face the fear and walk in in the power of who we really are. When we remember that it isn’t what happens to us. It isn’t the mistakes we made along the way that define us. What defines us is who we chose to become in spite of all of it. We are at the end of the journey, the only one who is responsible for who we become. We are always a work in progress. Each day is a new day. A new pattern of thoughts. A new wave of emotions, A new belief that we can truly become what we wish to become.
You’ll learn as you get older, that rules are made to be broken. Be bold enough to live life on your own terms, and never ever apologize for it. Go against the grain, refuse to conform, take the road less traveled instead of the well-beaten path. Laugh in the face of adversity, and leap before you look. Dance as though everybody is watching. March to the beat of your own drummer. And stubbornly refuse to fit it.
– Mandy Hale
Soaring in solitude, Grandfather Eagle calls to me as he circles high above.
With a few strokes his wings push him even higher above mother earth.
His razor vision upon me, he reminds me that I have the gift of inner vision to see far off in the distance of my own journey.
Just as he sometimes soars on the air currents, and other times beats his wings to fly against the wind, I too can adjust my journey to meet what is coming down the road to meet me.
As he circles overhead he conserves his energy by gliding with the air currents.
I am reminded of the need for rest, to not be constantly pushing my body to exhaustion.
He appears to be drifting, but one pump of his wings reminds me that action is always needed to remain in forward motion and go the full distance.
At all times he is connected to mother earth, staying grounded with his vision.
He always remembers where home is. I see he flies with purpose.
If I am to remain strong in my vision, I too must be grounded into our mother’s soil, so that I am not blown off course by the winds of distraction.
He flexes his talons and cries out again reminding me that I must listen to my intuition in order to know when to take flight, and when to stand strong and fight for the vision within me.
I must be strong enough to not only give birth to it, but to also grow it into maturity.
I must know when it is time to leave the nest, stretch out my wings and take flight.
He shows me visions of his long journey,
I see high above the ground the hundreds of miles he has flown, from new moon to new moon, over the mountains, the desert, hills, valleys, lakes and rivers he has seen.
He speaks to me of his great courage in his willingness to explore the unknown, to not just look in the light, but to peer into the dark shadowed places.
He is not terrified of the emptiness of the unknown.
I see the great lesson from the creator that he is teaching, to not be afraid to journey into places and experiences that are unknown.
Even the dark places have important lessons to be learned.
He plummets out of the sky dropping without sound, and with perfect accuracy catches his prey unaware.
As he climbs back into the heights he calls out to see if I understand the import of yet another lesson, that of being here now.
The prey was not aware of the danger approaching.
The prey was living in either the past which can’t be changed, or the future which hasn’t yet happened.
I nod my head grateful for the reminder to be alert to what is happening around me, so that I don’t miss the messages that the great creator sends me.
The windwalker alone of all birds flies above the rain instead of landing until storms ends.
He reflects that those with the Windwalkers gifts must never allow circumstances to deflect us from our purpose, but instead gather our courage and stretch our limits.
By flying higher, we gain a greater perspective, and we can see that while others might be shortsighted and think we are in retreat, we are in fact advancing high above the clouds.
We do not let hardships bring us down into hiding, but we continue onwards in our journey.
His sharp beak and strong jaw muscles reflect the importance of knowing when to speak , how much to say, and how strong the words need to be in order to impart the lessons of the past and those visions yet to happen.
The Windwalker, like many of our earth’s brothers and sisters in the animal kingdom, have many lessons to teach us reminding us of what we already know, but have forgotten.
We must have the eyes to see, the ears to listen, and the wisdom into our heart, and them implement it in our lives.
When you hear the cry of the eagle, stop and contemplate what his reminder to you might be.
Many of us step foot on the path to spiritual enlightenment expecting it to lead us onward and upward, hoping to become something better than we are, and ready to gather all of the important things we need along the way. What a surprise it is when we eventually realize that this path isn’t taking us onward but inward, that we’re not gather things so much as letting them go, and that there was never anything more to aspire to than the truth of what we already are.
– Cristen Rodgers
Something will occur in our lives when the soul is ready to wake up. It could be a health scare or near death experience that we have. It could be losing a parent, spouse or child. Loss of identity when we lose our job. A divorce. Then come the signs of feeling that your life is empty, devoid of real meaning and purpose. It is as though you are lost in the woods and you keep trying to find a trail back to your car, but you are just wandering and starting to panic. You feel as though something is lost or missing in your life. Like there is this giant hole that you keep walking around. You don’t know what it means, except that you have to find something to make your life meaningful You start questioning everything you have been taught. Either you have abandoned God or you feel he has abandoned you. There is a sense of injustice. You feel like a blind person groping about in the darkness. Loved ones may be trying to help you, and you just want everyone to leave you alone. In fact it seems to be a necessity if you are to figure this out – you must be alone.
Fortunately, some are born with spiritual immune systems that sooner or later give rejection to the illusory worldview grafted upon them from birth through social conditioning. They begin sensing that something is amiss, and start looking for answers. Inner knowledge and anomalous outer experiences show them a side of reality others at oblivious to, and so begins their journey of awakening. Each step of the journey is made by following the heart instead of following the crowd and by choosing knowledge over the veils of ignorance.
– Henri Bergson
It is the being alone that allows us to go within. It is important when we start on this path to enlightenment to understand the need for space for just sitting and going within. To create the space for connection, to see what is crying out to be released as not being part of our authentic self. To regenerate and renew the pieces of us that were killed off as part of social conditioning. The parts we buried because we were told it wasn’t safe to be who we really are. It takes a great deal of courage to go within and choose to be our true self.
Who looks outside dreams, who looks inside awakens.
– Carl Jung
When we start down this path, we always think we are missing something. Think back to the Wizard of Oz and the journey down the yellow brick road. Toto was a catalyst for Dorothy always running off when Dorothy was needing to wake up and become conscious about something. The first thing she found on the journey was the ruby slippers. She had no idea of the power of the slippers and they remained dormant until she was enlightened enough to correctly use them The Scarecrow, The Tin Man, The Cowardly Lion, all had what they were looking for. The journey for them, was to look inside and expand their boundaries and limitations. To realize their full potential. They weren’t missing anything. They just needed to awaken to who they already were. To choose to be better. To let go of doubts and stories that we all tell ourselves that we are not capable of being or doing that. To gather enough experience that they could have the confidence that they were more than enough already.
Many of us step foot on the path to spiritual enlightenment expecting it to lead us onward and upward, hoping to become something better than we are, and ready to gather all of the important things we need along the way. What a surprise it is when we eventually realize that this path isn’t taking us onward but inward, that we’re not gather things so much as letting them go, and that there was never anything more to aspire to than the truth of what we already are.
– Cristen Rodgers
As we walk on our journey of self discovery, we crave the enlightenment that we are seeking. To know who we are deep within our heart and soul and to be able to grow and transform into who we are destined to become. Every life experience that we have had, has been designed especially to help us learn the skills required to fulfill our destiny. Instead of continuing to conform to our parents ideas of who we should be, or our friends expectations of who we should be, we choose to listen to the guidance of our own soul’s voice. To travel the unexplored path, to think outside of the box, to be curious and question everything we have been taught. To discover the impossible journey.
My message, especially to young people is to have courage to think differently, courage to invent, to travel the unexplored path, courage to discover the impossible and to conquer the problems and succeed. These are great qualities that they must work towards. This is my message to the young people.
– A.P.J. Abdul Kalam
Curiosity is the beginning of awakening. It is the first step on the path to discover who you are, what you purpose is, what feeds your soul. When we get curious we start exploring the world around us. We choose what to release and leave behind us as no longer fitting who we are. We choose what new things to bring into our life, new truths, new understandings, new awakenings. We create the magic of unveiling who we are. The treasures of the gifts we never recognized that we have. We let go of fear after fear. We start honoring and valuing who we are deep down inside. Self love and self trust grow and expand with each fear that we release. We recognize that each fear was in fact designed to hold us captive, bound so that we couldn’t discover our divine selves.
You reach a point where you feel yourself going through an awakening. You look at what you used to do and who you used to be. It hurts because you realize you believed in and promoted nonsense. You grow; you evolve and you stop because you no longer operate at that frequency. As a result, there’s certain people that you have to walk away from. As a result, you start to realize just how messed up the world is. You want to help; you want to heal; you want to make it a better world. This is how you know you’re awakening a higher level of consciousness . . .
– Sylvester McNutt
When you start living from that authentic place deep inside of you, you will be truly seen. In order to be who you are at the soul level, you have to let go of the stories you have heard all of your life that you have been defined by. It is like a puzzle where the pieces were jammed into place because they didn’t quite fit. When you are living life from the authentic place at the soul level you find yourself, slowing piece by piece rearranging the pieces of the puzzle. When you realize who you are at your deepest level, all the pieces will fit together with no gaps. That is when you will experience a whole new level of love, grace, peace and serenity in your life. You will still have road blocks on your path. You will still continue to grow through success and failures. The difference is that you begin to recover faster. The difference is that you embrace what is true, that you keep being curious and ask better questions that when you started. The difference is measured by real progress on our life’s journey.
You find peace not by rearranging the circumstances of your life, but by realizing who you are at the deepest level.
– Eckhart Tolle
But to be truly committed we need to “burn the boats”. This expression is a “point of no return”, where you have destroyed all other choices and are left with no options but the intention you started with. It comes from a famous incident when a Spanish Explorer landing in Mexico ordered their ships to be burned. They either would conquer the country or be killed, because they had no way to return home. So take away plan b, eliminate the lifeline. Go all out for what you are passionate about. Follow your bliss. Look at what is working and not working. What you love to do and hate to do. The key is to get immersed in what you are passionate about and hire help for the rest.
Promise to stay wild with me. We’ll seek and return and stay and find beauty and the extraordinary in all the spaces we can claim. We’ll know how to live. How to breathe magic into the mundane.
– Victoria Erickson
I think that turning our dreams into realities is all about staying wild. To stay adventurous and be curious. How to breathe magic into the mundane. It is about touching the stars and flying with dragonflies. It is about dancing with fairies and talking to the moon. It is about following Alice into the mirror or down the rabbit hole. It is about returning to Oz for more adventures. The imagination is critical to planting the seeds of our future. Don’t listen to those who purvey logic and say it can’t be done. Listen the to whisper of your heart as it leads you to create what others can’t even imagine.
Refuse to be that person that, like so many others is still driving down the same road years down the line, mournfully longing to go back in time to be given just one more chance to take the road they should have taken because they ignored all possible extraordinary signs. It’ll never get easier to make the leap and this is your chance, so make the change. Take the road now.
– Victoria Erickson
The things that we do and don’t do shape who we are. They put detail into our minds, bodies, heart and soul. The stretchmark’s of childbirth. The laughter wrinkles. The broken hearts and mended souls. We have learned how to be brave, smile through the tears. We promise ourselves and our loved ones that whatever tragedy is happening in our life – we will still be okay. We have learned how to shift our patterns through the tides of change. How to ride the wild waves and make it back to shore. How to stand in the wind and adjust our sails. And we have learned to leap. How to leap out of the ocean depths and fly across the water. To ride the storm and make it back out into calm waters. We are not settlers. We didn’t settle to drive down the straight and narrow roads, that ones that don’t lead to adventures. We chose the road to adventure.
I have the deepest affection for intellectual conversations. The ability to just sit and talk. About love, about life, about anything, about everything. To sit under the moon with all the time in the world, the full-speed train that is our lives slowing to a crawl. Bound by no obligations, barred by no human limitations. To speak without regret of fear of consequence. Talk for hours and about what’s really important in life.
I love my tribe of special girlfriends. We sit around the fire and drink wine and talk. We talk about our lives and solve all of our problems. Then we move on to solving all of the worlds problems. My mom would always ask me what we talked about, and I would say that we just created a better world for all of us. There is a movie with Sam Waterston, John Heard and Liv Ullmann called “Mindwalk” – it is about a lawyer, a politician and a scientist who meet up at Mont St. Michel. They get caught up is the magic of having one of those kinds of conversations. They explore everything as they walk around the castle. I loved the film because you see how exhilarating a conversation can be when you aren’t arguing with each other but instead opening up each others minds to explore new ideas and concepts.
The idea is to live your life in a way that makes you feel lit up. Alive. Fully fledged. Beautiful. Know and find what nourishes you inside out, bones to skin and then build your world from that alone. All else is not part of your revolution. Or your ultimate evolution.
– Victoria Erickson
Our dreams are meant to be moments of connection. Connecting ideas, concepts and changing the reality of our life. They are expansive. They flash across time and space, to a point in the future and then ricochet back to us with what the next step is to make them a reality. The dreams are fluid and watery as they flow and adapt to new information. They are always moving forward, never retracting. They are malleable, luminous, free like the clouds in the sky to form new patterns and shapes. Follow your passion. Listen to your heart. Don’t be afraid of changing and adapting.
There’s a turning point. It arrives when we find ourselves quietly hovering inside the realization that the choice is between two pains: the pain of the jump or the pain of regret.
– Victoria Erickson
Leaping is such a wonderful visual word. Like you have a “pride of lions”, for leopards, it is “leap of leopards”. When a leopard kills an antelope it has to take his kill high up into the trees. If he doesn’t other animals will take his kill away from him. The adult male leopard with 80-198 lbs, and the female 63-132 lbs. An antelope outweighs the leopard with the largest weighing more than 1,000 lbs. So if the leopard doesn’t balance his leap perfectly, it risks being crushed by their own kill. If they don’t make the leap high into the tree branches, it risks losing his dinner and starvation. Every time I see the word leap, I think of the leopard.
Remember that you are more than skin and bones. You are one thousand stories of before. One thousand stories of potential. One thousand stories you’ve yet to see and know and feel and breathe. There’s more to come. And it’s something beautiful.
If I don’t leap, I won’t be able to continue bringing my dream into reality. If I do leap, I know that there are times when I will fail. Experience has shown me that I will then need to regroup and leap again. To rise up and continue my journey. Since there will be pain of failure, pain of regret, or pain of the leap itself, I tip myself over the edge with the knowledge that I can flip my fears into courage. There are thousands of stories yet to be lived and told over the campfire. There is so much more potential to be revealed. I am still unraveling the parts of me that don’t belong and uncovering the true me that I buried so long ago. So when I am given the chance to leap, I take it. I live a new story. I share that story with you. I can’t wait to hear your stories. To hear your dreams of realities not yet created, as well as all of the transformations you already have unveiled.
There will be certain people and places that’ll open your aliveness, flooding you with the same awe and sweet ache as a thousand daydreams revealed. Hold these connections close, for one day you’ll know a clearer view of what they truly were from the beginning – still moments of perfection in an ever spinning world.
– Victoria Erickson
So as you sail about in the sky, reaching for the castle of your dreams, treasure the still moments of perfection that happen along the road. Make sure you take time each day to dip your toes into the pools of still moments of perfection. See the daydreams unveil themselves. Get a clear focused view, an eternal moment of clarity. Take out your compass and adjust your course as needed. Stay in the wild spaces. Keep leaping. Remember to live your life not in the past, or in the future, but in this moment. Feel the love, the joy, the happiness and most of all live with an open heart to see the beauty of your life in its thousands of forms.
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