This is the year, that I become the warrior woman that I didn’t think I could be.
This is the year, that every morning begins with a cup of the grandest vision I can imagine.
This is the year that I find the gold inside of me, and don’t try to dilute it.
This is the year that instead of allowing that critical voice inside my head to stop me, I will dust off my stiletto kick ass heals and crush it.
This is the year, that I let the wild and crazy girl go free.
This is the year that no one (not even me), can put out the burning desire that rages deep inside of me.
This is the year that “I am already everything I need”, becomes more than just a saying.
This is the year, that my “will” is stronger than fears resistance.
This is the year that I will forgive myself freely, and love myself relentlessly.
This is the year that my life is a living, breathing, screaming, invitation to believe in better things, not only for myself, but for the whole world.
This is the year that God is bringing new seasons of growth into my life.
This is the year that new doors of opportunity will up-level my life to a glorious future beyond my wildest dreams.
This is the year that the way I live my life, respects and enhances the freedom of others.
This is the year that I will always speak the truth, even if no one wants to hear, or will listen to it.
This is the year that I shine like a beacon through whatever dark nights come.
This is the year that I dance with change and transformation instead of fighting it.
This is the year that passion and purpose become that favorite dress that I wear for all occasions.
This year when I feel the start of something new, I am going to pay attention and follow the directions.
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We all stand at the threshold of a great adventure every day. It can be a scary place, because we all have our individual self doubts. We have to unlearn the programming that says it is selfish to put ourselves first. It is not selfish to love ourselves, to take care of ourselves, and make our own happiness a priority. As they say on every airplane takeoff, in case of emergency, put your own oxygen mask on first, then you can help others.
Every soul is beautiful and precious; is worthy of dignity and respect, and deserving of peace, joy, and love.
– Bryant McGill
You cannot change what is going on around you, until you start changing what is going on inside of you. We need to put on that oxygen mask, so we can take stock of what inside of us is not working. We need to let go of what is not ours to fix, put up with, or allow to continue happening.
We are all born with a purpose and a passion. It is up to you to seek out that purpose and find your passion.
– Billy Cox
We are fragile human beings who can be destroyed by another’s words or actions. If we are not being treated with love and respect, we need to see what value we have assigned to ourselves. The people that we surround ourselves with are a reflection of how we view ourselves. We need to get off the “reduced last chance sale rack”, and get inside the fancy glass case where the precious jewels are displayed.
You are determining the future you every day. Will the decisions you make today lead you closer to the person you want to be tomorrow?
– Brenna Smith
How many times for example has someone said, “Where to you want to go to dinner?” and your answer was that you didn’t know or didn’t care. You do know what you feel like eating, but somehow, you always say, “it doesn’t matter, what you do want?” The scriptures say something like, he who is faithful in little things, is faithful in bigger things. What it is talking about is the principle of patterns. What you do in the big things has been formed by the habits of what you do in the little things. The habit of always putting others before you, started in the smaller things, like what do you want for dinner.
Be authentic! Don’t lower your dreams to fit it with others. If people can’t celebrate your dreams, they are probably not your friends.
– Phineas Kinuthia
We may be afraid that no one will listen to us, so why speak. We may be terrified that they will laugh at our dreams and say they are unattainable. We fear being judged as unworthy, not enough. We don’t want to be all alone and so we abdicate our life away, so that we will be accepted and fit in. This is the story that we tell ourselves so that we don’t have to change.
Instead we can start making choices that feed us, energize us. We can choose to be unstoppable. To be bigger than any worries that are buzzing around us. Those buzzing worries are just scenario’s that no longer serve to build us up. Release what is no longer serving you. Open the window shooing the fly to go buzz its way outside.
Sometimes the hardest thing to do, is also the right thing to do.
The universe is always speaking to us . . . sending us little messages, causing coincidences and serendipities, reminding us to stop, to look around, to believe in something else, something more.
– Nancy Thayer
You are more than you have shown yourself to be so far. You are more than you have been willing to see. You are stronger than you know. Trust your intuition and live a courageous life.
Respect your efforts, respect yourself. Self respect leads to self discipline. When you have both firmly under your belt, that’s real power.
– Clint Eastwood
Today is the day to get up and walk down your sacred path. Choose to dwell in divine possibility. Awaken to the divine guidance that has been sending you messages. Believe in the divine plan, that you are more capable than you ever dreamed. Remember that you will never had to sacrifice your dignity for your destiny. If it feels like that is the choice, then your intuition is telling you to pass that choice by.
Be not the slave of your own past – plunge into the sublime seas, dive deep, and swim far, so you shall come back with self-respect, with new power, with an advanced experience, that shall explain and overlook the old.
– Ralph Waldo Emerson
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The world needs more poets like Maya Angelou. Her writings are so inspirational.
“Nothing can dim the light which shines from within” – Maya Angelou
When you shine your light, it means that you are expressing your souls purpose in being here. You are living congruently with your souls purpose and your light shines out. Don’t you just love being around people, when they are being their authentic selves? That is true charisma and magnetism. Maya Angelou was such a soul. Desmond Tutu is another such soul.
“Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness” – Desmond Tutu
When you listen to the news each morning or evening, it is hard to see the light through all of the darkness. So much of the news is about the darkness in your community, with only the occasional story that reflects the everyday heroes among us.
“If you light a lamp for someone else, it will also brighten your path” – Buddhist Proverb
Then you all have those times when the darkness of the world has settled into your own living rooms. You lose a loved one in death; you lose your job; your family falls apart and that special person that promised to love you forever, leaves you. It could be that due to addictions, your spouse or child has turned into someone that you don’t recognize. Despite everything you try, you can’t reach them. So much darkness can spill across your threshold, like the floods during a storm, safety seems to be an unreachable, forgotten place. You may feel that no matter how many candles you light, the darkness has taken over and you can’t see your way out of it. The pain has spread from your hearts and buried your soul.
“You have to find what sparks a light in you so that you in your own way can illuminate the world” – Oprah Winfrey
This is the time when you might believe that everything is finished. That life is over for you. That it is no longer worth living. And that is when a new beginning happens. I love the analogy of photos and darkrooms. The negative is developed in the dark. Then when the chemicals have worked their magic the photo can be seen. Out of the darkness comes a beautiful picture. Something new has been created.
“If you can’t be the light, be the match. You may not be the candle to illuminate the room, but your spark can be the source of it’s light” – Unknown
For most of you, if you look backwards in your lives, you find that the most personal growth was created by the darkness that entered your life. If you can remember that, when you are going through the “dark night of the soul”, then you know that even if life is giving you bushels of lemons at the moment, something beautiful is about to be born. It is at this time that you need to remember these words:
“Give light, and the darkness will disappear of itself” – Desiderius Erasmus
In the words of another wise soul, Martin Luther King Jr start where you are.
“If you can’t fly, then run. If you can’t run, then walk. If you can’t walk, then crawl. But whatever you do, you have to keep moving forward” – Martin Luther King Jr.
You have to keep moving forward into the light. You have to find some way to keep the light of your heart alive. Martin Luther King Jr. told us that only light can drive out the darkness, and only love can drive out the hate. Your heart has both the light and the love you need contained within it, if you don’t barricade yourself from it.
“Some days you will be the light for others, and some days you will need some light from them,… As long as there is light, there is hope, and there is a way” – Jennifer Gayle
So when darkness seems to be the only thing you can see, look more closely. LemonadeMakers are all around you. We all have our heart lights shining out into the darkness, helping others to see their way out.
“Strong people don’t put others down, . . . they lift them up” – Michael P Watson
You all have your own stories of the darkness that visited with you. LemonadeMakers know your story, because we have been in your shoes. We will help you back into the light, and you in turn will help someone else. That is what the light of love is all about.
Learn how to see. Realize that everything connects to everything else.
– Leonardo da Vinci
Change is a funny thing in our lives. It happens everyday. A seed breaks its shell and begins growing a plant. The Apple Tree blossoms, forms the bud of an apple that grows and ripens. The seeds are sown, they grow and produce according to their kind, and they are harvested, eaten and the process begins again.
In 1963 Edward Lorenz presented “The Chaos Theory” to the New York Academy of Science and was laughed out of the room. Thirty years later, this theory was accorded the status of a “law” when physics professors proved it to be true. The original theory stated that, a butterfly flapping his wings set molecules of air in motion, which moved other air molecules and so forth until a hurricane was set in motion on the other side of the planet. This change effect, states that in our own lives, even a small change can bring about a revolutionary impact in our lives.
We can look at this through the analogy of the ripple in a lake. A raindrop hits the still water and starts a ripple. Then another raindrop, and another, and so on. Each one creates its own ripple. These ripples expand out, and end up striking each other as the raindrops fall. Each of these tiny ripples impact each other to create chaos in the still water. In the same way, our thoughts, words, and the little details and actions that we complete or leave undone each minute, hour and day impacts not only our life, but the lives of others, both near and far.
Every single thing you do matters. You have been created as one of a kind. You have within you the power to change the world.
– Andy Andrews
Your destiny is bound to the destiny of others. They say, “the devil is in the details”. The reason this is true is because it is the details that really change you, and the world around you. You might think that big events change the world, but if you study history and trace backwards, it comes down to something that was thought to be insignificant, that really sets it all in motion.
Think back to something that happened in your life that you can see totally impacted your life. Trace backwards to where the event really started. Not the moment that all of the dominoes crashed down, but to the event that started the dominoes to tilt. A close friend had some major changes happen in her life in the past 10 months. She didn’t see the connections until just this past week. When she saw them, she was astounded at what started the whole pattern to breakdown.
My friend and her husband decided the end of last year to move into a new condo unit. It was a much nicer unit with more space and a great view. The new condo was renting for $600 more a month than they had been paying. It also had additional utilities payments that had been included in their rent for the previous condo. So like most of us, she looked at her monthly budget to determine how they would be able afford the higher rent.
Her old place was next to a Starbucks, and they had been in the habit of going there for breakfast every single day. So the amount of money they were spending a month, was just about equal to their higher rent payment. So she thought they would just stop going to Starbucks, and the higher rent would be easily absorbed into their lifestyle.
They moved into their new home and adjusted their spending habits as planned. This was the detail that escaped my friend when she made this decision, that she saw when she looked backwards. My friend was contracting her wealth energy by making this decision. Starbucks was part of her wealth profile. She felt wealthy by going there everyday, and spending that much money on coffee. It gave her the expansive energy of abundance. She could afford to do this, therefore she was wealthy.
A few months later, she noticed that her business was slowly contracting and they were month over month earning less money. This in turn caused her to further retract her spending habits. Then my friends husband told her he was leaving her. He had reconnected with his first wife and decided to divorce my friend, and begin a new life with his ex-wife.
My friend was devastated, as she hadn’t seen it coming. It was like she was getting hit after hit. At one of their meetings to discuss their divorce, she finally got enough courage to talk to him about what had happened. She asked him, when his feelings for her changed? He told her that it was after they moved. He felt like they were losing their lifestyle, and that it started with Starbucks and then continued on to other things. He didn’t want to live that way.
That was when the “lightbulb” went off in her head. Starbucks had been the energy of her feeling wealthy. When she made that decision, that started the rain drops hitting her lake. The more raindrops that fell, the more the ripples contracted her wealth energy, which caused her business to lose more revenue. Those ripples hitting upon each other changed every bit of positive flowing energy in her life. It was contraction after contraction in every aspect of her life.
Perhaps the butterfly is proof that you can go through a great deal of darkness yet become something beautiful. While she has been through hell the past few months, as soon as she saw the connections forming she immediately started shifting her energy back into the space of abundance. Her business has fully recovered, and is currently more successful than it was this time last year. She learned a powerful lesson that has been known for centuries.
Everything is alive; everything is connected.
She feels that if instead, she had thought expansive thoughts, such as what can I do to increase my revenues to afford a higher rent, that her business would have grown and expanded. They would not have had to reduce their lifestyle, and things would have continue along the same path with her husband. Now while we can’t say for sure that her marriage would have not ended, but it certainly seems possible that she is correct.
Think back into your own life when you had a situation like my friend. A time when life started going downhill fast. A time when one domino after another seemed to be falling. A time when you hit rock bottom. Now trace it back to right before it all started falling apart. There in that space, you made a decision, that was probably a decision of contraction. There was something there that was a tiny detail, that you didn’t realize was connecting your life and holding it all together.
When one tugs at a single thing in nature, one finds it attached to everything else.
– John Muir
This is so important to remember. Contraction of energy will cause our connections to spin out of control. It is expansion of energy that grows into abundance. It is expansion of energy that creates love and compassion to one another. This is what we need more of, both in our personal lives and the world. It is the answer to all questions, expansion of love.
Humankind has not woven the web of life. We are but one thread within it. Whatever we do to the web, we do to ourselves. All things are bound together,… all things connect.
– Chief Seattle
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In 2013, in Oregon, teenage sisters Hanna (age 16) & Haylee (age 14) lifted a tractor to save their father pinned underneath.
In 2015, in St. John’s, Newfoundland, Nick Williams lifted a four-wheel-drive vehicle to save a young boy pinned beneath its tire.
In 2015, in Vienna, Virginia, Charlotte Heffelmire was able to momentarily use incredible strength to free her dad from a GMC pick-up truck.
“The only thing limiting us in life is our belief that there are limits” – unknown
What do these three things have in common? They are what you call miracles, extreme feats of strength. Adrenaline on overload. What they demonstrate is that the rules, boundaries and limitations don’t exist. Why? Because you can blast through them, when you don’t stop to think about it. These examples show people who did something their logical mind’s would have told them was impossible. But because someone they loved was in danger, they did the impossible.
“I don’t think people should have boundaries put on them, by themselves or society or another gender, because it is our birthright to experience life in whatever way we feel best suits us” – Hilary Swank
There was a commercial at Super Bowl XLIX for Always #LikeAGirl. In the video an adult female show them what it’s like to run like a girl, then a young female teen, and preteen female and last a little girl. The older girls ran in an unreal way that was weak and ineffective. The younger girls ran as fast as they could. The commercial highlighted the fact that most women when they hit puberty, take in limitations to what they can do and be.
“Our beliefs are just thoughts with emotions tied to them that we’ve taught ourselves to believe are true” – JV Crum III
As teenagers, in order to fit in, you started holding back on what you were capable of. 75-80% of your negative thinking patterns come from negative beliefs that you have made up about yourself. When I started school, I was four years old, turning five in November. I entered first grade, because my school didn’t have a kindergarten. So I was very small and always 1-2 years younger than everyone else in my grade. I was chosen last for any sport activity. I formed the belief that I wasn’t good at sports. Because of this belief, I never tried. To this day, I am not active in any sports. This is just a belief, and only my reality as long as I let it be.
“Beliefs have the power to create ad the power to destroy. Human beings have the awesome ability to take any experience of their lives and create a meaning that disempowers them or one that can literally save their lives” – Tony Robbins
Ernestine Shepard, is a body builder. She believes that age is nothing but a number. Because of that belief she is doing some amazing things. When she was 56 years old she decided to become a body builder. In 2010 she entered the Guinness Book of World Records as the oldest female body builder. At 83 years old she is still going strong. “I am out running/walking at 3:30 a.m. in the morning with a group of people, seven days a week,” Ernestine told the Miami Times. “I eat very healthy and eat five meals a day every day. My gym schedule consists of going five days a week and doing a variation of 100 sit-ups per day.”
She has been on Oprah and recognized throughout the world for what she is doing. She teaches an Energy Fitness Class at a gym. She has a video created by Prevention Magazine. She is an excellent example of how it is never to late to take a negative belief about yourself, and break through any self imposed limitation with a new positive belief.
“Don’t limit yourself. Many people limit themselves to what they think they can do. You can go as far as your mind lets you. What you believe, remember, you can achieve” – Mary Kay Ash
All of us continue to allow limitations to rule our lives as adults. Some limiting beliefs are conscious and some unconscious. You need to realize that it is all just an illusion, a false belief of your imagination. At one time there was a saying that if God meant for man to fly, he would have been given wings. The Wright Brothers refused to allow that limiting belief keep them from their dreams.
Your beliefs challenge you to get creative. You can choose to rise up and create what is needed to be successful. Failures come when instead of rising up, your mind creates road blocks. Your mind comes up with all of the perfectly good reasons why it can’t possibly work. Why you are “not enough” of something to make it happen. This path of limited thinking leads to failure.
“You can have anything you want, if you are willing to give up the belief that you can’t have it” – Robert Anthony
People with boundary problems have distorted attitudes about who is responsible for failures in their life.
The excuses list could go on and on. The truth is that you have built boundaries all around your excuses and painted yourself into the proverbial corner. The corner is limiting, but it feels safe. You lack the courage to step over the line and actually risk pursuing something you want. You are just plain afraid of any change in your life. It happens to everyone all the time.
“Boundaries are for those who are too afraid to take the leap” – quoted from @Business Beware
If you accept a limiting belief, it will become your truth. What walls have you built over the door of opportunity that you are ready to blast into bits? What limiting belief are you ready to let go of?
Share with us your limiting belief that you are letting go of. Your share will help all of us to do the same.
Join us for our monthly Zoom call and lets talk about what can be done to get out of the corner and take the risks that opportunity put in front of us. Let’s open that door and see what happens.
Years ago, when I was young, I had opinions on what would I do, if “such and such” happened in my life. I think that when most of us hear of an experience that someone has, we think “well if that happened to me, this is what I would do”. You might not agree with the decision that another has made, when your imagined senario happened to them. The lemons that life gives you are not supposed to paralyze you. They are not supposed to make you bitter. They are not supposed to make you give up on life. They are to help you dig down deep and discover what you are capable of.
“Who I am and what I am capable of doing has always managed to surprise me” – Jodi Picoult
When life does hand you lemons (your imagined scenario), and you are the one trying to make lemonade out of it, many times you come to a totally different decision. There are many reasons for this. Each of life’s lemons come to you wrapped up in a different series of circumstances. You could look at multiple experiences of someone losing a loved one to violence, and you would find that each instance was handled in a different way. This is because although the label may be the same “man killed by random shooting”, the circumstances in each case tell their own unique story.
“You can’t judge my choices without understanding my reasons” – Unknown
In 1995 Tariq a pizza delivery man was shot and killed by a 14 year old gang member. Initially Azim, Tariq’s father could barely function. But he came to understand that the 14 yr old boy named Tony who killed his son, was also a victim. He felt called to forgive Tony, and became friends with Tony’s grandfather and guardian. He started a foundation to help kids stop killing other kids. He began talking with kids in schools about the realities of that lifestyle and the importance of making right choices.
“From the onset, I saw victims on both ends of the gun. I will mourn Tariq’s death for the rest of my life. Now, however, my grief has been transformed into a powerful commitment to change. Change is urgently needed in a society where children kill children” – Azim, Tariq’s Father
He made lemonade out of his lemons. This foundation (http://tkf.org/) has grown into an organization of 13 full time staff members and 30 volunteers that mentor over 20,000 students each year. In the article I read, in 13 years they had touched eight million kids (the foundation is now over 24 years old). But I would bet that if you had asked him if this is the road he would take if someone killed his son, this is not the answer he would have given. His unknown road that he journeyed on revealed what kind of man he truly was. This is forgiveness in action.
“If we all did the things we are capable of, we would astound ourselves” – Thomas A. Edison
You are on a road, a journey to discover who you really are. What you are capable of becoming.
“No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path” – Buddha
Azim saved himself by walking the path of true forgiveness. He wanted to not only prevent other innocents from being killed, he wanted to save those other victims – “kids” becoming killers themselves. His difficult road has lead to a beautiful destination – saving others.
What I have learned in life, is to hope that I can emulate the grace I see in others lives, as they grapple with life’s lemons. That until I find myself in that same hard place, I don’t really know what my decision will be. I do know that there is no turning back. So each decision needs to be made in prayer and meditation, with that understanding. The challenge is not just discovering who I am, but loving what I find.
“Find out who you are and be that person. That’s what your soul was put on this earth to be. Find that truth, live that truth and everything else will come” – Ellen DeGeneres
What can you learn from the lemons in your own life?
Who you? A person of deep strength who keeps walking the path, knowing that new wonders are going to be revealed right around the next bend.
“I have always grown from my problems and challenges, from the things that don’t work out, that’s when I’ve really learned” – Carol Burnett
Jack Canfield tells a wonderful story of an elderly woman who is meeting with her minister to plan out her future funeral. She tells him all the things that she wants around her and she says that she wants a fork. Puzzled the minister asks her why a fork? So she says, “when they have the potlucks at the church you know you are going to have a special desert, when they say to save your fork. The fork is to remind everyone that the best is yet to come.”
When a friendship, relationship ends, or a loved one dies, it can seem like our broken heart is all that we have left. There can be no happy ending. That is when we need to remember the story of the fork. We need to remember that the best is yet to come. We may not even see a glimmer of what it could be. We may look at the broken pieces of our heart and think that there is no way it can be mended. “new beginnings are often disguised as painful endings” Lao Tzu
But what we are doing is not really mending the heart. It is giving the heart a new beginning. Think of a clear calm lake. No waves, just a perfect surface reflecting all that is around it. Now pick up a stone and throw it as far as you can into the lake. As it hits the surface, it creates a ripple on the surface of the lake. It starts small and expands out to the entire lake. Eventually the ripples expand to the point that the surface of the lake is completely calm again. “Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.” Arthur Ashe.
However the lake has been forever changed. It now contains that stone on the bottom of the lake. This is our heart. Our heart will never be the same, as it contains both the love and heartbreak that occurred. It can come back into it’s new shape, and look the same, but it has been forever changed. It is always a new beginning. “I feel a new beginning coming towards me and I’m running to it with open arms.: Unknown.
So when someone or something breaks your heart, know that eventually the ripples of sorrow, loss and pain will expand out and fade away. Our heart has been forever changed by the loss, but remember the fork – the best is yet to come. A new beginning. “Every day is a new beginning. Treat it that way. Stay away from what might have been, and look at what can be.” Marsha Petrie Sue. Trust in the magic of new beginnings. Look forward to what is coming next.
Our feelings and emotions can at times be overwhelming. I remember when my mom passed away, that in the evenings I would get deluged with emotions of missing her, being mad at her for dying, hurting so much that I just crawled into a ball and cried until I couldn’t breathe. There are times in your life, when your whole body is crying in such deep pain, that it takes everything you have just to take another breath. It feels as though your soul is on fire. It is hard to remember that feelings are just visitors, and we can let them visit, and then let them go back out the door they came in.
An entire sea of water can’t sink a ship, unless it gets inside the ship. Similarly, the negativity of the world can’t put you down, unless you allow it to get inside of you.
– Goi Nasu
Like a person surfing the waves, we can learn to ride these overwhelming emotions. We may crash and fall off our board, but we can choose to get right back on and ride the next wave. To me riding the wave is allowing the emotion to flow right through us, just as the wave reaches the shore and dissipates into nothing.
Life is like riding a wave. To keep your balance, you must keep moving.
– Eric Carlson
Sometimes your heart needs more time to accept what your mind already knows. I think the reason that grief or anger can get us stuck in these emotions, is because we don’t allow the emotions to flow through. They can get caught in a rip tide inside of us. We fight releasing them until we are exhausted. Sometime we struggle and we battle ourselves, denying how we are really feeling. Other time we wallow in these emotions, holding them to our hearts and refusing to let them flow. Either way they will keep pushing us to the shore and then dragging us back out to sea, until we are so exhausted, that the rough surf literally beats us into the sand.
Allowing the emotions to pass through helps us to heal from the hurt. We recover much faster, and we can begin choosing good memories to dwell on. We can progress into appreciation for the time that we had with what we have lost. The truth is that we haven’t really lost anything. People and things come into our lives, serve their purpose or reason for being there, and then move on to the next thing. The important thing is that we had them in our lives for the time they were with us.
When we have a bad memory come up, we can just ride the wave to the shore, and then consciously allow it to fade into foam and dissipate. It doesn’t have to drag us back out again. We can release the hold we have on it, and let the feeling fade away. As the last bubble of the foam pops, then it is time to let it go. Then we can consciously decide that we want to raise our vibrations up into higher levels. We can raise the vibration out from the sadness, grief, or anger. We can start attracting good feelings into our space. We always have a choice, even when we think that we don’t.
When stress and bad days hit, we are designed to reach out for the help we need. But our natural tendency is to withdraw instead. We shut down, hole up, limit ourselves to our own little worlds.
– Holley Gerth.
It is important when the bad days hit, to reach out to someone we love and let them help us.
Allow yourself to really feel, your feelings. It’s okay to bare your soul, breakdown or cry because through that breakdown comes your breakthrough.
– Rashida Rowe.
Letting those who love us help us, is practicing self care. It is reflecting back to those who love us, how much we love and trust them to be with us in our hour of need. And sometimes when those that we love say they are okay, we need to hold them tight and look them in the eyes and tell them that we know that they are not okay. And that in itself is okay, because we are going to keep holding them tight until they can breathe on their own again.
Taking a few deep belly breaths, placing our hands on our heart, and consciously reaching for something that will help us raise our awareness into something positive. I always think of the laughing baby when the dad tears the paper video or cute kittens and puppies, or a favorite song like Pharrell Williams “Happy” song. Music has the wonderful ability to speak to us, to express what is in our hearts, that we can’t express in words. As the “Happy” songs says, “happiness is the truth”.
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Have you ever heard of the question – If you could have dinner with anyone dead or alive, who would you want to have to a dinner party? Eleanor Roosevelt is on my list. She seems to have been a remarkable woman. Her advice?
“Do one thing everyday that scares you” – Eleanor Roosevelt
I don’t live up to this quote, but I do try to do things that scare me. First I procrastinate on them a little, though. Most of the things that scare me, are things that I have never tried to do before. So every year part of my goals, are to do things that I don’t currently know how to do.
Do you remember when you were a kid and you got your first bike? I remember being so excited to be able to ride a bike like all of the bigger kids did. It was a symbol of growing older. A lot like getting your drivers license or turning 21, a true milestone. First though you had to have training wheels. It took a time or two to figure out that they were keeping you from falling, because you had to learn to trust them. Then came the day that you had probably been whining about, the day they took the training wheels off. You were ready to balance the bike and ride it all alone. After a fall or two, you figured out how to balance the bike and from then on you were no longer a baby.
What I remember most, is that even though I was scared of falling and getting hurt, I wanted those training wheels off. Being accepted into the big kids group was more important than letting the fear stop me. Always remember that when you are scared, you are thinking about doing something that requires you to be brave. Riding a bicycle without training wheels for a 5 year old is being very brave.
“If it’s both terrifying and amazing then you should definitely pursue it” – Erada
What is something that you have done this past year that required you to be very brave? What were the training wheels that you removed, the thing that you were depending on, that you needed to let go, so that you could grow?
When I took my drivers training class, it was part of high school. The class started right after school, and the first time behind the wheel you had to drive off a side street bordering the high school. All of your friends would gather around the stop sign, waiting for you to drive the car out of the lot and up to the stop sign on the side road. Of course, there were several sudden jerking stops as you drove toward the stop sign and all of your friends would laugh. It was like a hazing in a way, because it eventually happened to everyone you knew. At some point we would all be the object of ridicule. But at the same time, it was like – cool, I’m driving a car!
These are the two examples that I keep in my head when I am trying to break through and do something that scares me. Both of those things scared me, but at the same time, it was cool, look at what I am doing! It reminds me of the hit song from “Panic At The Disco”, “Hey look ma, I made it”. It also helps to have mentors like Eleanor Roosevelt. People that you admire, who you can look to for guidance. Albert Einstein is another of my dinner party guests. He said:
“A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new” – Albert Einstein
I think that sometimes you are scared to want something so badly that it hurts. You are scared of not only failing, but of succeeding and then being disappointed. Of succeeding only to lose it later. So you tell yourself that you are afraid of failure, but in reality, you are afraid of success not being enough. Of success not lasting.
“Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new” – Brian Tracy
I have really thought about this fear of failure/success. I love the breakdown of the process in the above picture – that moving out of your comfort zone is actually a process of moving from fear, to learning and then to growth. (note: the photo is from Adobe and I can’t fix the typo)
Once I move past fear the feeling I have shifts into anticipation. Like fear, it also begins and ends in the stomach. Like riding the roller coaster as it climbs up and up to the sky, and then hurtles you down to the earth, whipping you back and forth through the turns. The wind blowing against you, your stomach lurching up your chest as you hold on tight. Then all of sudden the ride is over and you are running back to the end of the line to do it again. This kind of fear is telling you that being scared can be a thrill, because you are learning and extending your comfort zone at the same time. That what you are about to experience by entering the growth zone is worth breaking through the hesitation and going full out.
“Life is inherently risky. There is only one big risk you should avoid at all costs, and that is the risk of doing nothing” – Denis Waitley
They say that at the end of a persons life, what they talk about is the things that they didn’t take the risk and try to do. Being in love, is one of those risks. Being afraid of being vulnerable, of being rejected, they hold back the words. At the end of their life they regret not telling people how they really felt, not saying “I love you” enough to those that mattered to them. When they had the opportunity, they shrunk back telling themselves, “they know how I feel”. While that may be true, what any person wants and needs is to hear those words.
“If it doesn’t challenge you, it doesn’t change you” – Unknown
So whether it is learning to ride a bike, drive a car, ride a roller coaster or say “I love you” – don’t let fear hold you back. Be brave. Say the words, do the deeds. Feel the fear and do it because it is scary. Do the things that both excite you and scare you at the same time. Live your life as fully expressed, as bravely, and as committed as you can. Just maybe if you can do that, you’ll get more than you ever could have imagined.
“All our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them” – Walt Disney
I used to work for a company that owned hospitals and healthcare centers, doing accounting. The majority partner in the business would have the same order for lunch, every single day. A turkey sandwich with potato chips. Every single day, he ate the same lunch. They ordered lunch from TGIF, so it wasn’t like he didn’t have any other options.
I think many of us live in a rut. Stuck in a groove we can’t get out of, whether it’s our job, family drama or the little frustrations of everyday life. – Brian Pinkerton
I always wondered if he ate the same breakfast every morning, and the same dinner every evening. He was definitely a man stuck in a rut. Rush Limbaugh says that when you are in this experience, you “are out of contact with your own genius”. You have had this happen in your life at some point and time. The rut is a place of safety. You may have had a fear of the unknown, so the rut was a place of safety, because it is always the same. When you turn the page, who knows what might happen?
So what Zella is telling us, is that being in a rut, can actually be part of the journey – the point is once you recognize that you are stuck, then you can start going backwards, or forging ahead out of the rut. That you can blaze your own trail off the beaten path to your destination. That you can escape the rut. That you can get back in contact with your personal genius. This is because living your life on purpose through your personal genius, is when you know that you are home.
Changing a behavior is like driving down an old, rutted, dirt road. In order to get out of the rut and onto a new path, you need to jerk the wheel really hard. If you don’t jerk the wheel hard enough, you’ll just bounce right back on the same, old, rutted path. So for change to happen, hold on tight, jerk that wheel as hard as you can and get ready for a happy ride. Change is just beyond, on the other side. – Perfectharmonysolutions.com
When you listen to your personal genius, your souls voice, it leads you to amazing places. You find yourself living and doing things that previously you would only read about. Things that you could never imagine yourself doing. It is a conscious choice to listen to this voice that emanates from deep within.
We’ve all been there. The stress of moving your household. First packing then unpacking. It is exhausting, bad breaking labor. Or not? Maybe it’s a chance to play outside the box of go, go, go and instead find the joy in the moment. That is a totally inside job.
The choices that come from the outside are harder to deal with. The tragedy knocks you down and makes you a victim. Even the blessing, is a harder choice, because the blessing usually starts out like the tragedy. It becomes the blessing because you realize that you were stuck and needed your world turned upside down to shake you loose. The result of the blessing is that you took life’s lemons and made them into lemonade.
Being stuck in the past is like walking forward with your back facing front. You’ll always miss out on what’s in front of you. – thedailyquotes.com
How do you recognize that you are in a rut? One sign is reliving the past. It happens because you were comfortable there. You may complain about it, but you make no movement to actually change it. Another is repeating the past mistakes over and over again. Why do you repeat patterns of mistakes? Because you have convinced yourself that this time will be different. My mom was married five times, and every single man she married, she met in the bar that she was working in. One of the things that every single man had in common? They were all alcoholics. I remember telling her as a teenager, that maybe if she met men some place besides work, it might work out better?
You must learn a new way to think, before you can master a new way to be. – Marianne Williamson
This is how you get out of the rut. You don’t try to solve problems in your life with the same thinking that created them. You step up and out of the rut. And you begin blazing a new trail. So instead of stepping backward into the rut, step forward into growth. See where life is taking you. Listen to the voice of your soul, and wake up. Live your life with the intention to grow, live your life from your true reason and purpose for being here, and love your life with a passion that is on fire!
Life is too short to think small. If you think that something can be done, then it is too small. If you think something is probably impossible, that is the goal to go for. Not because the goal itself is the thing, but because of how trying to reach it will grow you.
If it doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change you. Go for the moon shot kind of goals.
Moon shot goals involve others in coming together as a community to make the really big goals happen. Moon shot goals help others to reach out past their own boundaries and limitations as they buy into helping you accomplish yours.
The will to win. The desire to succeed. The urge to reach your full potential.., these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence. – Sabine Mondestin
The hard work of the goal is in making the vision clear. When you can see the minute detail, then you can make plans. With plans come steps. With steps, you begin moving into action. You gain a tremendous feeling of confidence when this happens. This confidence, grants you personal empowerment. Empowerment fuels your passion to bring the goals into reality. This is how the miracles begin.
It is like the infinity circle in which one part feeds and fuels the next part, in an never ending cycle. Clarity fuels the plans. Then plans fuel the steps.
Then steps start the wheels moving and you get action. Action gets you excited that stuff is finally happening.
Personal empowerment comes from actions taking place. Personal empowerment in turn fuels passion. Passion feeds back into clarity. Clarity begins the whole process again.
This is because as the vision starts moving forward into implementation, you get more clarity. Clarity starts new plans. New plans lead to revised actions. The whole cycle begins spinning again.
With engagement the divine one moves in with synchronicities and doors begin to open. People show up, all to bring your goals into reality. You are not meant to accomplish things by yourself. But no one can help you, until you help yourself.
I used to extinguish under the weight of living, but one day, I reached into my chest, dusted off my courage, and asked myself, “where’s your fire?” – D. Antoinette Foy
Be strong about your goals, and flexible about your methods. Be willing to try things you don’t think will work. To try things that you have never done. You learn by discovering what will work for you.
Has anyone ever tried you train you by having you watch them do the job? They walk you through a program. They tell you what your inputs should be. You go back to your desk, and you can’t remember what to do. Your notes don’t make any sense to you.
But when someone sits beside you, and guides you as you do the work, now it sinks in. You learn by doing it yourself. As you do the work, you have the space to think of the questions you need to ask to understand the process. When you just learn the process you are just a cog in a machine. When you understand the process, now you can innovate. Now you can teach it.
When you become visible, you take a huge risk. Because not everyone is going to like you. Some people are going to hate you, just because you are different. There will be those people that will be mean and cruel. That needs to be okay. You need to understand that you are not here for everyone.
You are not here with your gifts for those who don’t want them. You are here for those that do.
The only real difference between us, is that some of us have remembered why we are here. Others are still asleep to their true purpose. They don’t remember their divine inheritance. They will find fault with what you are doing, without really understanding why it bothers them so much. They act as a challenge to help you reach your highest potential.
If you are persistent, you will get it. If you are consistent you will keep it. – Unknown
Such an interesting quote. Being persistent is how you learn something. Have you ever listened to a two year old, asking “why”? They are the most persistent creatures in the universe. Persistence is how you learn. Understanding comes from doing it consistently.
You literally sink the learning down into your bones. I like to think of learning, as how you learned to ride a bike. Most of us can ride a bike.
You were persistent enough to learn to ride, getting back on every time you fell. But were you consistent enough to go past the basics and learn all of the tricks of riding a bike – did you become a master?
How do you let the amazing out?
Curiosity is the compass that leads you to your purpose. Your reason for being here now.
When you are tempted to give up, your breakthrough is probably just around the corner. – Joyce Meyer
Then you work on your true inheritance, and accept that as you become masters on this earth, that your signature will become your autograph.
A signature is so much more than just a splash of ink across the paper. A signature is style. It is a “look”. It is something that says who you are. When you see the Nike symbol, what pops into your mind? Nike is not just about shoes.
When you hear the Coca Cola jingle, “I’d like to teach the world to sing” how does it make you feel? Coca Cola is more than just a drink. That is what a signature is.
You have so much inside of your soul waiting to come out. That is why you will risk becoming visible. That is why you can’t think small.
Because some part of you deep inside knows how truly magnificent you really are. Each of us is a thread in Gods tapestry. Each of us has a part to play. Each of us has to become visible, in order for the pattern to be seen. Each of us has that special one of a kind signature that the world needs to see, feel, and hear.
Life is too short to not follow your passion and purpose in your life. Passion and purpose are like the infinity loop, in that each one both feeds on and fuels the other. When they are working in tandem, there isn’t anything that you can’t accomplish. This is the space of the “high” where you feel invincible. Where everything just falls magically and magnetically into place. There is purpose in your searching, which is fueled by your passion. You search for the answers in response to the hunger that both drives and fuels your soul. It begins when you get the smallest glimpse of your true potential.
The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away. – William Shakespeare
That time when you were a little child, and you saw someone doing something that just grabbed you, and you thought I want to be that or do that when I grow up. At that moment you saw your true potential. At some point fear of failure, or being told that you weren’t talented enough to be that or do that – something happens that puts a cork in your desire. You bottle it up. You bury it deep inside yourself, because you are embarrassed that you ever had that thought. Who did you think you were?
There comes a time when the need of releasing that cork from that bottle, cascades out of you like a river rushing to the sea. This need is a palpable thing. Your heart knows it needs to be released. Your instincts keep calling to you to release it. It keeps showing up no matter how we try to ignore it. It just continues to transform itself over and over again. It might show up at work one time, at your home life another. With a loss of a loved one. With the reconnection to an old friend. It might show up in your spiritual life. It keeps winding itself through your life, until you finally pay attention.
Do what you feel in your heart to be right – for you’ll be criticized anyway. – Eleanor Roosevelt
Within every life, the things that require transformation, are the pieces of misinformation that you have adopted in your life as being true. You probably don’t even know that they exist in your subconscious. For example; If your parents were divorced when you were a child, you may subconsciously feel that if you had been a better child, they would still be married. This might show up in your life with an intense desire to make everyone happy, to put yourself as last, to literally have the welcome mat on your face as people use you, and then leave you. You surrender and abandon your dreams.
You have convinced yourself that the problem is that you just aren’t giving enough of yourself away. If you just try harder you tell yourself, then you can make everyone else happy, and only then you will finally be happy. You keep that dream bottled up. You tell yourself that your vision of your true potential is unattainable. That you must settle. That whole story is a lie, a falsehood. That story needs to be transformed.
There will be places where your self sabotage shows up. Places where the shadow swings into action to stop you. Going around the bend of the river, you may get damned up by debris. Some busy beaver has blocked the flow and dammed up the river. This debris is all of the obligations that you have loaded upon yourself. The excuses, “I am too busy or don’t have the time” and “I have no money”, falls into this bucket.
The question comes up, what is behind the “but” excuse for you to follow your dream? You need to get curious. You need to start removing the debris, and figure out where it is coming from. Each of those sticks is tied to some false belief or assumption that you have to identify and then transform.
Recently there were newspaper headlines “Thames River now home to sharks, seals and sea horses, no longer biologically dead”. After years of cleaning up centuries of pollution, the river has come back to life. Just like cleaning up the Thames brought the river back to life, you need to “clean up your river” so that you can get back into flow with your passion and purpose, back into flow with your God given destiny.
The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new. – Socrates
At places it may seem as though you are motionless, frozen in place. You have allowed the temporary artic blast from the nature of your fears, to freeze your river. It may seem like a solid block of ice, but deep beneath the surface, it is still flowing to the sea. It may have become a small dribble, but with the fires of your passion, you can melt the ice returning the river back into its full force.
Passion requires focused direction, and that direction must come from three other areas: your purpose, your talents, and your needs. – #sayquotable
Friends and family may try to sidetrack you, by diverting your river to their own benefit, but your need will find a way to get back on course.
At times we appear to be in flood stage, where the passion is so strong that you surrender to it. It is at these times that you learn to trust in divine providence to take you where you need to go. With the force of the floods, overflowing the course of the river, it will speed you past boulders that were blocking your path. Remember that all limitations, road blocks, and diversions are self imposed out of fear. Choose to leap forward over every obstacle as a challenge, that you have in fact already conquered.
Sometimes the best thing you can do is not think, not wonder, not imagine, not obsess. Just breathe, and have faith that everything will work out for the best. It is in that space between the breathing in and out, that brief space of holding, that you hear the voice of the divine. In this space you have the power to choose your response. Are you going to run from the challenge of having a mighty goal in your life? Are you going to deny your highest dreams and say that this is not your calling? Are you going to create a disaster by not having lofty ideals to strive for? Or are you going to reach for the stars, and really truly own that this starlight belongs to you and only you?
You are here not to shrink down less, but to blossom into more of who you really are. — Oprah
Gratitude is so important to happiness. Be thankful for what you are now, and keep fighting for what you want to be tomorrow – always shifting and transforming towards the magnificence that is buried deep inside. Everything changes, seasons come and go. You turn around and suddenly you find half the year is over.. Everything on this earth is in a continuous state of evolving, refining, improving, adapting, enhancing…, changing. You were not put on this earth to remain stagnant. You came here to reach certain goals. To fulfill certain dreams. To capture the highest ideal of who you are capable of being. You came here to not only reach the stars, but to reach beyond them.